All right. So welcome to the man talk show. I'm Connor Beaton. And today we're going to be talking about

the second installment of the mental health month, which is replacing your negative coping

mechanisms with generative rituals. So in this video, I'm going to talk about why coping mechanisms

get built. What generative rituals are. I'm actually going to break down what a ritual is because we hear this term all the time. You know, have rituals. Make sure you have good rituals. But for the average person, they're like, I don't know really what the hell a ritual is other than the things that I've seen in religion or, you know, when I used to go to

church on Sunday. And so I'm going to break down what a ritual is and what the etymology is and what

the term actually initially meant and why it's so important, especially in our modern culture.

And then I'm going to give you three tactical steps that I took to shift out of my negative coping mechanisms and into more generative

rituals. Because to be honest, I had pretty much every single coping mechanism known to man.

Like that's, that's probably an embellishment and exaggeration. But I mean, I had a ton of coping

strategies to deal with the stress, the anxieties, the loneliness, the fear of death, the, you know, fear of abandonment, neglect, insecurities, just the general human experience that we all have.

I had a ton of coping strategies that ranged from things like

overeating from a very young age, using drugs, using alcohol, using porn to sort of numb out and

distract myself and, you know, excessive masturbation sometimes. We're really getting personal

right now. I know you're getting the whole, you're getting the whole thing. I mean, drugs, porn, alcohol, sex, women, you know, constantly

texting multiple women at the same time and engaging in relationships, social media,

you know, endless amounts of time on social media, binge watching TV.

I mean, I kind of ran the gamut.

The only thing that I didn't really get into was gambling, mostly because I had a bad

experience.

I turned 18 and went to the casino with some friends and lost like $500, which at the time

when I was 18, that was like my life savings.

I was like, this is fucking terrible. I'm never

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