RELATIONSHIPS: Why Everything You Know About Them Is (Mostly) Wrong

The Next Big Idea

Next Big Idea Club

Science, Social Sciences, Society & Culture, Education

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🗓️ 9 June 2022

⏱️ 52 minutes

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Summary

Eric Barker is not a people person. “Getting me to write a relationship book,” he says, “is like asking Godzilla to improve the infrastructure in your city.” But he did it anyway. Guided by leading social psychologists, Eric went on a journey to understand what he was getting wrong about relationships — and what he could do to turn things around. The result is “Plays Well With Others,” a guide to friendship, intimacy, loneliness, and belonging that our curator Daniel Pink says will “revitalize your life.” THIS AND THAT: Check out Eric’s blog, “Barking Up the Wrong Tree” Try out Arthur Aron’s intimacy building questions Download the Next Big Idea app

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0:00.0	LinkedIn presents.
0:01.0	I'm Rufus Griskem and this is the next big idea.
0:10.0	Today, why everything you know about relationships is pretty much wrong.
0:30.0	Eric Barker had no business writing a book about relationships.
0:41.6	Getting me to write a relationship book is like asking Godzilla to improve the infrastructure
0:45.0	in your city.
0:46.0	Like, I'm really not a guy.
0:48.4	And he's not just being self-deprecating, Eric's poor people skills are scientifically
0:53.2	verified.
0:54.2	You know, agreeable, and this is one of the fundamental personality traits and I scored
0:57.4	a four out of a hundred, you know, that's not good.
1:01.3	No it isn't.
1:02.3	But rather than throw up his hands and resign himself to being a curmudgeon, Eric decided
1:07.3	to do something about it.
1:09.1	He went on a journey guided by leading social psychologists to better understand what
1:13.8	he was getting wrong about relationships and what he could do to turn things around.
1:18.8	The result is a new book called Plays Well with Others.
1:22.3	The surprising science behind why everything you know about relationships is mostly wrong.
1:28.0	Our curator Daniel Pink called it Humorous and profound, a book he added that will revitalize
1:33.5	your life.
1:34.8	In Plays Well with Others, Eric tests four maxims.
1:38.7	Can you judge a book by its cover?
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