Relationship Manipulation Tactics (w/ E.R. Fightmaster)
Why Won't You Date Me? with Nicole Byer
Headgum & Nicole Byer
4.9 • 16K Ratings
🗓️ 20 October 2023
⏱️ 58 minutes
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Summary
Comedian E.R. Fightmaster (Shrill, Grey's Anatomy) joins Nicole to discuss the benefits of keeping romantic partnerships out of the public eye, how dating reality TV shows are normalizing abuse in relationships, and the common manipulation tactics to watch out for in your love life. Plus, they share horniest they've ever been in their life, and what it's like to write horny music.
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| 0:00.0 | Why won't you date me, why won't you date me? |
| 0:11.4 | Why won't you date me, please, tell me why. |
| 0:17.9 | Oh, baby, welcome to another episode of why won't you date me a podcast or me and a coal |
| 0:27.5 | buyer. |
| 0:28.5 | Let's try to figure out why I'm still single, but guess what, it's been a long time, |
| 0:31.6 | nobody knows. |
| 0:32.6 | My guest today is a stand-up comedian, LGBTQ plus activist writer and musician, you've |
| 0:38.4 | seen them in, shrill, and Grey's Anatomy as their first non-binary doctor. |
| 0:43.8 | Their new 5-song EP titled violence is out today, it's ERFINSTAR! |
| 0:54.7 | The way that you've done it, I've never felt like more of a wrestler. |
| 1:00.6 | I try to give people an intro that excites them and makes them feel good. |
| 1:07.5 | Yeah, it did, I feel really, I feel strong. |
| 1:10.1 | Yes, that's what I want. |
| 1:12.3 | ER, can I just say that you have lovely hair, it's very lush and quaffed in a way that |
| 1:18.9 | like the layers are really speaking to me. |
| 1:21.6 | Thank you so much. |
| 1:22.6 | I want you to know that you can't see the back right now, and the back there's just like |
| 1:29.4 | a hole where some animals are living, but it thank you for saying that about the front. |
| 1:33.9 | It feels good. |
| 1:34.9 | Oh, well, you're welcome. |
| 1:36.1 | I have an animal I think living in my attic and I think it died because it's all |
| 1:42.2 | stinky and it's really upsetting. |
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