This is something that has happened so often in my head and in my home.

I have found myself saying,

Why have I had to tell you this over and over again or why won't you listen. And sometimes that's because

they're for and they just can't listen and other times it's because they're 14 and they have their

own ideas. It's time for a reset. I'm John Fuller along with

Dr. Danny Werta who heads our parenting team and we're going to revisit now a

discussion that focus president Jim Daly and I had with Dr Randy

Schrader who addressed how to rein in something that he calls discipline mode.

When it comes to discipline, the big question of discipline,

applying rules and setting boundaries,

kind of what standard discipline is.

Parents tend to go into lecture mode.

You touched on that last time.

It made me very uncomfortable Randy I don't know why

we just do it we just go into that lecture mode and the kids here wah-wah-wah-wah

so a I guess why do we as parents do it? We think it's effective when the kids are tuning out.

What's a more effective way to get the point across?

Well, and parents do it because they love their sons and daughters dearly.

And they want the best for their kids and they truly believe all I need to do is give the very best

lecture or discuss things to the end degree and then my child is going

to absorb all that information and they are just going to become capable, confident

Christian individuals.

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