Well, we hinted at last episode, rules are necessary. There are safety reasons for some rules, but rules have to be balanced in the home with some love, and we're going to talk about that today. I'm John Fuller, thanks for joining us.

Dr. Danny Werta is here. He leads our parenting team and Danny, what's a rule that you and Heather had for the two kids

as you were raising them?

Yeah, this was a tricky one from an early age.

Just what does it mean to not have bad language in the home?

Cuss words.

Yeah, like Christian Cuss words.

Which ones are cuss words? Which ones are not and and words they're hearing at school and if they come home and oh that's a bad one I didn't know that was about that's a bad that's a good one and in this line of we're going to have life giving words in our

home so that's the rule and that's what we came to because when we go to no

cussing we found out there's it was just for some kids this is a cuss word that's good we're

gonna that's an automatic challenge for some kids to say well how about this can I do that

can I do that right so what you've done is framed it as we are going to the rule is we're going to use

affirming life giving words life giving words in the home and sometimes that's

correction sometimes that's hey I didn't like this or I'm upset about this

because it brings life to a relationship.

Whereas customers have no life giving redemptive value to them and many times it's done to try to look cool and that's actually trying to

consume other people because you're trying to look a certain way. So we've had

great conversations along the way about this line of what does it mean to

have these life-giving words and not have cuss words in our home.

I love that and I hope that you are making a mental note of that mom and dad, frame these rules in a positive way.

We're going to turn now to a conversation with Dr Randy Schrader who

spoke with focus president Jim Daly about rules and about helpful strategies to influence

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