Rediscovering the Levels of Intimacy - A Guide to a Better Connection

The Virtual Couch

Tony Overbay LMFT

Education, Mental Health, Health & Fitness, Self-improvement

5 • 643 Ratings

🗓️ 16 January 2020

⏱️ 56 minutes

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Summary

Physical attraction may be enough to initially bring a couple together but is it enough to sustain a relationship when you feel disconnected emotionally, spiritually, or intellectually? Or how about when you feel like anything you say to each other is a trigger for an argument? Learn how to form a more healthy view of intimacy, beginning with psychological intimacy, verbal intimacy, emotional intimacy and more. Discover how to make physical intimacy the natural byproduct of a strong connection. The content of this episode was initially recorded and aired in 2018 after Tony learned about the Levels of Intimacy from Dr. Kevin Skinner of ADDO Recovery.- This episode is sponsored by Blubrry Podcasting – Launch your Podcast the Blubrry Way. The Virtual Couch is hosted by Blubrry, and chances are you already have a podcast, or you want to start a podcast. What are you waiting for? Get 30 Days of Blubrry Podcasting FREE, that includes hosting and stats, and a WordPress website if you need one. Publishing is as simple as Create – Upload – Publish. Use the promo code BLU014 to get started today, or simply click on this link and you’ll be a podcasting in no time! https://create.blubrry.com/resources/podcast-media-hosting/?code=Blu014 - Tony will be speaking in the Midvale North Stake on Sunday, January 26th in Midvale, UT. His talk is titled "Hang in There! You're Doing Better Than You Think." The talk is free, the address is 97 W 7500 South, Midvale, UT.-Tony will be presenting at the Outlier Podcast Festival in Salt Lake City on January 25th, 2020. You can find out more info here: Outlier Podcast Festival | Salt Lake City at The Pod Mill @ 30 South Main Street Salt Lake City UT January 24-25, 2020 http://outlierpodfest.com/ (http://outlierpodfest.com/ ) Get a 15% discount to attend the festival by using the discount code "Outlier".-Tony Overbay, is the co-author of "He's a Porn Addict...Now What? An Expert and a Former Addict Answer Your Questions" now available on Amazon https://amzn.to/33fk0U4 (https://amzn.to/33fk0U4). The book debuted in the number 1 spot in the Sexual Health Recovery category and remains there as the time of this record. The book has received numerous positive reviews from professionals in the mental health and recovery fields.-The book tackles tough questions with answers from both the expert and the addict's point of view. Tony, a licensed marriage and family therapist, and creator of The Path Back, an online pornography addiction recovery program that has helped hundreds of people overcome turning to pornography and other compulsive sexual behaviors as a coping mechanism, and Joshua Shea, former addict, and author of the book “The Addiction Nobody Will Talk About” read their respective answers to questions such as "Finding out he's addicted to porn has turned me off to sex completely, what should I do?" And "How much do we tell the kids?" And "Does this mean that God is mad at me, or doesn't love me?"-Reviews include: "This is the most helpful book for porn addicts and the people who (still) love them. One of the most courageous and timely books to help with a widespread and almost never talked about epidemic that is ruining marriages, careers, and lives. It will give hope to millions of people who are addicted to pornography. -- Mark Goulston, MD, FAPA, Author of Just Listen Discover the Secret to Getting Through to Absolutely Anyone.-You can learn more about Tony's pornography recovery program The Path Back by visiting http://pathbackrecovery.com (http://pathbackrecovery.com) And visit http://tonyoverbay.com (http://tonyoverbay.com) and sign up to receive updates on upcoming programs, and podcasts.

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0:00.0	Hey, coming up on today's episode of the virtual couch, and oldie but a goodie, we're going to rediscover the levels of intimacy, a guide to a better connection.
0:07.7	Physical attraction might be enough to initially bring a couple together. That's often the way it works.
0:11.5	But is it enough to sustain a relationship when you feel disconnected emotionally, spiritually, or intellectually?
0:16.8	Today, you're going to learn how to get a solid foundation based on verbal intimacy, move up to emotional intimacy.
0:22.8	But hey, I'm giving it all the way.
0:24.0	That and more coming up on the virtual couch.
0:36.1	Hey, everybody, I'll make this one quick. Now, as a therapist myself, of course, I recommend that everybody give therapy a try. Truly, we're all hanging on to some things that would be helpful to process or there's things in our life that we might, maybe we thought we'd achieve by now, or there's things that we desperately want to achieve so that we won't live a life full of regrets. Or there are people listening right now who may be noticing that their anxiety or their depression is getting a tiny bit more, let's call it amplified, the longer
0:58.9	that it's left untreated. You owe it to yourself or those around you, to your spouse, your kids,
1:03.3	and actually I guess really the most important person is you to at the very least give therapy a try.
1:08.0	So if you're nervous about finding the right fit, if you're worried about bumping into somebody in a therapy waiting room, if you have any worries about
1:13.8	therapy, might I recommend that you go immediately to betterhelp.com slash virtual couch. Again,
1:19.2	that's betterhelp.com slash virtual couch, all one word, and take a look at the world of online
1:24.1	therapy. Go check out what over 500,000 people have already done before you.
1:31.7	And sign up right now. Go to BetterHelp.com slash virtual accounts. You'll get the help that you need. You'll get 10% off your first month services. They have a broad range of expertise in
1:35.6	their counselor network, which might not be locally available in many areas. The service is
1:39.3	available wherever you live. It's worldwide. And you can log into your account at any time and send a message to your counselor. You can get a timely and thoughtful response, plus you can schedule
1:47.7	weekly video or phone sessions, so you don't ever have to sit in an uncomfortable waiting
1:50.9	room as with traditional therapy, although I maintain that my waiting room is very nice and
1:54.9	comfortable. BetterHelp.com will assess your needs, match you with your own licensed professional
1:58.5	therapists, and they have therapists that specialize in everything, all kinds of things.
2:02.8	OCD, anxiety, depression.
2:04.9	They use modalities such as acceptance
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