Redeeming Shame through Community :: Dr. Curt Thompson [Ep 308]

Don't Mom Alone Podcast

Kids & Family, Leisure, Parenting, Education

5 • 2.3K Ratings

🗓️ 4 January 2021

⏱️ 44 minutes

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Summary

Our kids begin to feel and respond to shame as early as 15 to 18 months of age. Those early moments can begin a lifelong struggle with feeling unworthy, inadequate and unlovable. Shame also disintegrates us (separating our thinking brain from our feeling brain) and isolates us from others.

My guest is Dr. Curt Thompson, a psychiatrist and expert on the effects of shame and how to find freedom from the lifelong negative messages that come after us and our family.

“One of the things that we notice about shame is that because we are immobilized and we are hiding, shame does not actually ever allow us to move toward God. This is why we have to have someone come and find us. This is why when our children are experiencing shame, we have to go and find them. This is why it's important for us as parents to have others who are coming to find us.”

YES! Moms don’t let moms sit in shame. We can choose to seek out others when they are stuck in the shame cycle. Who are your 2 or 3 moms that will help you tell your story more truly?

Dr. Thompson walks us through some practical ways to build in memories and physical reminders to work against shame in the future for both ourselves and others. And throughout our conversation he points back to how God doesn’t leave us to deal with shame alone.

“The beautiful thing is Jesus isn’t worried about our kids. He's not worried about your mothering. He's delighted. He knows how hard this work is and he knows that we will do it imperfectly. Even when we have our worst moments in which we foist to shame upon our kids or when our kids experience shame against everything that we're doing to try to combat it, God is saying: ‘I'm not worried. I never run out of options.’”

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0:00.0	Hey y'all, welcome back to the Don't Mom Alone podcast.
0:10.8	Our first episode in 2021.
0:13.7	I am your host, Heather McFadden.
0:16.0	This is the place where I'm going to walk alongside you and connect you with people and
0:19.2	resources so you know that you don't mom alone.
0:23.4	In this episode, number 308, we have Dr. Kurt Thompson on the show and it is fan testing.
0:29.9	One of the things that we realize in the scriptures is that as the scriptures unfold the story
0:37.6	of human beings, any time it mentions sin, frequently shame is attached in the Hebrew language.
0:45.0	Shame is part of that.
0:47.1	And one of the things that we notice about shame is that because we are immobilized and we
0:51.7	are hiding, shame does not actually ever allow us to move toward God.
0:57.9	This is why we have to have someone come and find us.
1:01.0	This is why that when our children are experiencing shame, we have to go and find them.
1:07.1	This is why it's important for us as parents.
1:10.0	If we're going to go and find our children, we as parents also must have others who are
1:16.5	coming to find us.
1:19.3	Kurt is the author of the book Anatomy of the Soul and the Soul of Shame.
1:22.7	And in this episode, you're ready.
1:25.3	You are going to be one encouraged.
1:28.0	You're going to be reminded of the work shame does to keep us from the good God has planned
1:33.0	for us.
1:34.0	You're going to be given help as a parent and how we, as moms, can come after one another,
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