Hey y'all, welcome back to the Don't Lom Malone Podcast.

I'm your host, Heather McFadian, and this is the place where I'm going to walk alongside

you and connect you with people and resources so you know that you don't mom alone.

In this episode, number 309, I've invited expert couple, Marvel Hendrix and Helen Hunt

on the show to help guide us in how to have safe conversations.

The point of all that is that you have to hold and I mean this, listen to, hold, not react

to another person's experience without trying to change it, without being critical of it

or anything.

And when you do that, the other person's amygdala, which is the emotional center of their

brain will be overtaken by the prefrontal cortex, which is the rational part of their brain

and they will calm down.

And then you can connect without the emotional conflict.

And it works every time.

It works with parents, with children, couples with each other.

It is something that we now know scientifically that if you mirror another person back accurately

and with warmth and not and no judgment, no trying to change their minds, something will

happen inside of them that will be Marvelous.

In 1980, Harville and Helen co-created the Imago relationship theory.

They have included it in their New York Times bestseller, Getting the Love You Want.

Harville's been on the Oprah Show 17 times.

And since that original creation, they have now developed the safe conversations training

that they offer to therapists and laypeople, couples to help teach people how to engage

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