Hello and welcome to the Empower Couples podcast where you get modern, non-boring relationship

advice for you and your partner to communicate like pros, fight smarter, and stay on the same

team no matter the challenge that you face. I am one of your hosts, Aaron Freeman. And I'm

Jocelyn Freeman, but you all just know us as the Freeman's. And this episode is about red flags

that signal a change is needed in your marriage.

Red flags, Freeman's. What does that mean? Is something wrong here? Red alert, red alert?

Yeah. Well, big phrase right there, right? But even before we get into this, most of the time when you've heard that phrase or when people talk about it, it's as if it's a description

of a warning sign that someone should have seen to signal them to get out of a relationship.

I mean, that's how I've mostly heard it.

So people say, oh, I should have seen this red flag coming or this is a red flag,

but it's specifically saying that this relationship is over and a kind of justification on,

I was in it too long and should have seen these things ahead of time.

Now, yes, in one sense.

And if that's a dating, maybe engaged type of season, then of course.

But we want to change red flag here because we are talking about the context of a committed

marriage that is looking to get better or is in a challenging season. But the key being, you're in a committed marriage.

So it is not about a red flag that means you should get out. It is about red flags that are

signals in your own awareness where there is a pattern of behavior that needs to shift rapidly between the dynamic of the two of you.

Yes.

Otherwise, you're going to be heading into a season where you will do more damage to the relationship

and you are really heading into a very challenging season. So who wants to be there? Use these red flags

as signals. Hey, we need to come together. We need to talk about these patterns so that we don't go

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