Debriefing Our Own Argument in the Airport to Uncover the Real Root Cause: Episode 280
EmPowered Couples with The Freemans
Aaron & Jocelyn Freeman
5.0 • 589 Ratings
🗓️ 7 March 2023
⏱️ 23 minutes
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Summary
At this point you know that arguments are going to happen. It's not the right goal to try and not have them. It's all about the repair. Now a big problem that you have likely experienced yourself is that when you try and come back to the conversation, it just escalates and you relive the whole argument. Now you are probably even more angry and frustrated with each other.
So in this episode we take you through an argument we just had 3 days ago while we were at the airport coming back from a trip. This one we did not keep from escalating and disconnecting us for over 24 hours. But then we did debrief our argument to find the root cause and resolve it together. You will authentically hear from us the mistakes even we made, but how you can debrief after an argument so that you too can shorten your argument hangovers and be able to learn the value lessons from an argument and change the patterns for the future!
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Transcript
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| 0:00.0 | Hello and welcome to the Empowered Couples podcast. We're here you get modern, non-boring relationship |
| 0:06.3 | advice for you and your partner to communicate like pros, fight smarter, and stay in the same team |
| 0:12.2 | no matter the challenge that you face. I am one of your hosts, Aaron Freeman. And I'm Jocelyn Freeman, |
| 0:16.4 | but you all just know it as the Freeman's. And this episode is us debriefing our own argument that we had |
| 0:23.4 | in the airport when we just traveled to uncover the real root cause. So yes, we're going to tell you |
| 0:29.2 | about our very interesting, not enjoyable disagreement in the airport that happened on the way back |
| 0:36.3 | from Florida here. And so it's just a few |
| 0:38.3 | days fresh, right, that we've had this happen. And we want to do this because we want to be those |
| 0:43.8 | authentic people, right? Even though we live and breathe these tools that we teach, we coach couples |
| 0:48.7 | all day every day. We just got off of a session and we talk about conflict. We talk about repair. |
| 0:53.7 | We're still human. |
| 0:55.1 | And you're going to have disagreements sometimes, no matter how much you learn. |
| 0:59.6 | If you read our book and you attend our web classes and you do our courses, it's not going |
| 1:04.2 | to mean you never have a disagreement. |
| 1:06.9 | And I'm going to pretend, Aaron, for a second, that I'm an athlete to use this analogy, okay? |
| 1:11.6 | I think about football, even though I didn't ever play football. |
| 1:15.7 | And if you think about what makes a team great, it isn't just that they practice. |
| 1:22.5 | It's that they also review the footage, right, Aaron? |
| 1:26.6 | Is that accurate? |
| 1:27.3 | Tell me I'm right. Yeah, it's roughly in there. |
| 1:29.7 | I mean, it's good. I would say it's not just that they practice, but then they, well, they practice and then they go and play a game with it. |
| 1:38.4 | Like they test it out. They get in life. Then, yes, to your point, those teams that kind of stay roughly average, just go to the |
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