What seems that one of the hardest things for couples to talk about is physical intimacy

and if this is an uncomfortable topic for you, we certainly get that.

But I'm glad you tuned in because we have help.

I'm John Fuller, along with Greg Smalley and his wife Aaron, and they lead the focus

marriage team.

Both our counselors and Aaron, I'm going to turn to you.

What are some of the common views that couples have as they enter into marriage about the

sexual experience they're about to have?

It is always fascinating to me to hear just the beliefs that individuals come into marriage

with about sex because a lot of them have been handed down or they've read something

or they've heard something at church or there's all these beliefs.

You know that sex should always be spontaneous and effortless.

One of the biggies is men always want sex more than women and that women are less interested.

And it's interesting because the research says something very different.

That is not always the case.

Great sex happens naturally without any communication or guidance.

And it's always wonderfully pleasurable.

Yes, yes, and it's perfect.

It's picturesque sex is only for procreation and you know.

Really, you've counseled some couples who think that?

Yes.

So it's just it's just exploring what do I believe about sex?

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