RE-RELEASE: Breakups Aren’t Failures — They’re Expired Relationships

The Angry Therapist Podcast

John Kim

Mental Health, Health & Fitness

4.6 • 1.1K Ratings

🗓️ 21 April 2025

⏱️ 16 minutes

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Today, John flips the breakup script, showing how to see endings as beginnings. He shares how reframing relationships as “expired” (not failed) can spark healing, growth, and real self-discovery. Feeling stuck, heartbroken, or just over the same old patterns? Join 7 Days to Reclaim Your Singlehood— a 7-day, $7 challenge to help you stop spiraling, reconnect with yourself, and build real momentum toward the life (and love) you actually want. Through daily prompts, mantras, and mindset shifts, you'll move from feeling stuck or heartbroken to grounded and empowered. Each day unlocks a new emotional breakthrough: Day 1 – The Mirror: Get honest with yourself and assess where your self-connection stands. Day 2 – I Am Not Lonely, I Am Becoming: Reframe loneliness and see it as part of your transformation. Day 3 – Redefining Self-Care: Strip away the Instagram fluff and find what true, nourishing self-care looks like. Day 4 – Detach to Connect: Identify and interrupt distorted thought patterns holding you back. Day 5 – Fuck It Friday: Give yourself permission to feel joy, rest, or play—guilt-free. Day 6 – The Call Is Coming From Inside the House: Spot limiting beliefs and begin rewriting your inner narrative. Day 7 – Write Your Self-Agreement: Declare a new, intentional relationship with yourself. This 7-day challenge starts April 22nd. Join now and start shifting today HERE Order John's new book, Break Up. On Purpose, HERE Jump into John’s new Single. On Purpose app HERE Follow John on Instagram HERE Find out more about John HERE Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

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0:31.4	Hi, my name is John Kim.
0:32.9	I'm a therapist who went through his own rebirth many years ago, and I've been documenting
0:37.0	my journey ever
0:37.7	since sharing my life lessons and revelations I believe in casual or clinical with you instead
0:43.4	of at you. I come unrehearsed on purpose because self-help doesn't have to be so complicated.
0:51.4	Why do I call breakups expired relationships? I get this question often. I'm actually working on a new book. That is why I am doing this inside a hotel room. I'm on what I call a writing leave, bearing myself into my words for three days to get a jumpstart. So first I want to say that I understand
1:15.4	that a relationship is not something we should compare to milk. You know, to say that a relationship
1:21.8	has expired, I think can be minimizing. I think it can be borderline disrespectful.
1:29.0	Even if the relationship was toxic, even if the relationship was unhealthy,
1:33.3	it's still two people with, you know, good intentions who did the best they could with where they were at.
1:39.2	And so to say that your relationship has expired, I understand, can be a bit wrong, you know, distasteful.
1:50.7	I remember I was on a Dax Shepherd's Armchair Expert podcast and he saw one of my videos
1:58.2	and I know that he disagreed with calling relationships
2:03.9	expired and I think you know he he had something to say about that I remember his eyes turned
2:11.4	a little bit sideways any question why I call breakups expired relationships relationships. But before we got into it, and I wanted to know, I wanted to know, I was very curious what he thought, because obviously he didn't agree. And before we got into it, I don't know why or how I said this, but I let him know that when I was 12, I had sex with a plum.
2:35.6	And, uh, and of course, got through a wrench in the conversation and suddenly we're talking
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