"Raising Securely Attached Kids" with Eli Harwood
The Allender Center Podcast
The Allender Center
4.7 • 648 Ratings
🗓️ 8 August 2025
⏱️ 50 minutes
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Summary
What if the secret to more connected parenting isn't about getting everything right — but about showing up enough to make things right when you don't?
In this week's episode, Rachael Clinton Chen talks with Eli Harwood, aka @attachmentnerd — licensed therapist, award-winning author, and one of Instagram's most trusted voices on attachment and parenting.
They dive into how our own attachment stories shape the way we relate to our kids, why being "good enough" really is enough, and how creating space for repair and consistency beats striving for perfection every time.
With a blend of science, personal stories, and down-to-earth advice, Eli reminds us that secure attachment isn't about flawless parenting — it's about presence, patience, and showing up again and again.
Whether you're navigating the younger years, parenting teens, or unpacking your own childhood experiences, this conversation offers hope, grounding, and a fresh perspective.
Visit her at AttachmentNerd.com where you can listen into her podcast, join the Nerd Herd, or even book an attachment coach. You can also follow her on Instagram, TikTok, and Facebook @attachmentnerd. And don't forget to check out her books: Securely Attached: Transform Your Attachment Patterns into Loving, Lasting Romantic Relationships and Raising Securely Attached Kids: Using Connection-Focused Parenting to Create Confidence, Empathy & Resilience.
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| 0:00.0 | Have you ever felt like you were living a narrative that someone else wrote for you? |
| 0:07.0 | Maybe your story was written by your family, your church, or your culture. |
| 0:12.0 | You may be asking yourself, what is my story, and how does it uniquely fit into the story of the gospel? |
| 0:19.0 | At the Allender Center, we believe that your story reveals God's wild goodness in a way |
| 0:23.9 | that no other story can. |
| 0:26.4 | We've helped thousands of people understand and live their unique stories, and we'd like |
| 0:30.8 | to invite you to start engaging your story with the free guided exercise available for download |
| 0:36.0 | at the Allender Center.org slash story. |
| 0:52.7 | Thank you for listening to the Allender Center podcast. |
| 0:56.3 | I'm Dr. Dan Allender. |
| 0:57.7 | And I'm Rachel Clinton-Chen. |
| 0:59.1 | We're fiercely committed to providing hope and healing to a fragmented world. |
| 1:03.9 | And restoration for the heart. |
| 1:06.3 | Thank you for joining us. |
| 1:07.6 | Let's get this conversation started. |
| 1:24.4 | Thank you. for joining us. Let's get this conversation started. Good people with good bodies. We've talked a lot about attachment on the Allender Center podcast, about the role it plays in our |
| 1:29.0 | development and our healing. And in fact, attachment theory is core to our narrative-focused trauma |
| 1:35.1 | care methodology. Personally, I am swimming in thoughts about attachment as a stepmom and a mom |
| 1:43.8 | of a toddler and in my marriage, in my |
| 1:48.0 | friendships, certainly as I think about what it means to be healing in my family of origin. |
| 1:54.8 | So today I am thrilled to be joined by Eli Harwood. You may know her as the attachment nerd on Instagram and Facebook. |
| 2:03.0 | She's a licensed therapist and award-winning author who lives in Colorado with her husband Trevor |
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