And when we're thrown off course in little ways or in big ways, it's very, very unsettling.

And so when you think about raising children, what we're really doing, I think in the long term,

is we want them to grow up to be able to handle life, whatever life gives them.

Hi, this is Deney. I'm the founder of Simple Families.

Simple Families is an online community for parents who are seeking a simpler, more intentional life.

In this show we focus on minimalism with kids, positive parenting, family wellness, and decreasing the mental load.

My perspectives are based in my first-hand experience raising kids, but also rooted in

my PhD in child development.

So you're going to hear conversations

that are based in research, but more importantly, real life.

Thanks for joining us.

Hello, hello, hello. That voice that you heard in the intro is Tova Klein.

Tova is the author of the brand new book Raising Resilience. She is she is a child psychologist, a mother to three sons and a best-selling author.

Tova has done extensive research on how to foster and fortify strong healthy relationships between a parent and child.

Because as she explains today, that relationship is the buffer, a buffer that helps our children to cope with uncertainty.

As she says, and I will quote, resilience is being able to handle the bad stuff over time

and to know you're not doing it alone.

I really enjoyed my conversation with Tova today.

As many of you know, I live in New York with my husband and my two kids who are now 8 and 10. And we have sort of unexpectedly

found ourselves living in Florida for four and a half or five months. So with these big abrupt

changes, we've had some unexpected opportunities to build resilience if you want to look at it that way.

We're in the Miss Evey major home renovation, but there is more to the story, which is probably another full episode.

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