Hi there, thanks so much for tuning in. I hope everyone is having a lovely summer. I have a quick

episode for you today. I wanted to give a brief summary of two books that I read about

a year ago by the same author that I've been finding really useful,

both in my personal life as a parent and in with the parents I work with in my therapy practice.

Now these books I think were intended probably for clinicians and teachers,

especially those working with children who need a little extra support. But I think these principles are so relevant for

everyone and every relationship. So the author of these books is Linda K Murphy.

I'm going to link her So the author of these books is Linda K Murphy.

I'm gonna link her website with these books in the show notes.

Linda is a speech pathologist and she works with kids

who have social learning challenges. When who have social learning challenges.

When we say social learning challenges, that can mean a variety of things.

But for the purposes of this episode today, let's think about this as work that helps to foster strong emotional connections and

cooperation. I'm just going to spend about five minutes on each book. The first book is declarative language. Now declarative

language is sort of a complex way of saying, finding ways to be less bossy. So in this book Linda

differentiates between declarative language and imperative language. Declarative

language is when we are simply stating what needs to be done. And imperative

language is when we demand what needs to be done and when it needs to be done.

So an example of this is if you look at a kid who what needs to be done and when it needs to be done.

So an example of this is if you look at a kid

who has food all over their face and you say,

wipe that food off your face right now.

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