Welcome to R-slash relationships, where the same guy keeps stealing all of O.P.'s girlfriends.

Our next credit post is from Dr. Anonymous. I'm a 30-year-old guy, and six years ago I was getting

married. My best friend, Judas, who was 31, was my best man. I was getting married to Leah,

who's 30. Our friend group was very, very close.

There were like nine of us, and we always did everything together, days out, game nights, holidays, etc.

Any time a friend would bring another female friend into the group, Judas would end up hooking up with them,

as he was genuinely just naturally very funny and charismatic, which is a big part as to why he's

everyone's best man. But he was never a threat to our relationships because we were all such good

friends. Just over a year into our marriage, Leah and I start having issues. I'm in the army,

so I'm at camp through the week, returning home Friday evenings and leaving again early Monday mornings.

This meant we only really got weekends together, and I'd always want to spend them with the group, and

she would mostly want alone time, just the two of us, as she would have been seeing the group

through the week. This, amongst other things, caused a lot of arguments, and we ended up separating.

While all this was going down, two of our

friends, Judas's cousin Andrew, who's 29, and his fiancé Phoebe, who's 29, were three days away

from their wedding day. Judas was, of course, their best man, too. Then, Andrew confessed to Phoebe

that he had been cheating on her with a co-worker for six months, so he couldn't go ahead with

the wedding. On what would have been their wedding day, a couple of us went to Phoebe's for drinks

to take her mind off everything, and her and Judas slept together. Worst, best man ever. Those two

had always been very close, to be fair, but we were all very surprised to find out. They apparently

drunkenly did it a few more times over the next month before deciding to end all that. While Leah and I were

separated, I'd still be trying my best to resolve things and work it all out, but she was slowly

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