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my father cause a huge scene at my engagement party and embarrassing my future mother-in-law?

My father has many faults. I am well aware of these, and therefore tend to keep our interactions

private. I still love him, and I've developed a system to keep him from screwing me over.

When my fiance asked me to marry him, I said yes. Then I went in privately told my dad about it.

We had a nice dinner with my fiance, and that was that. My future mother-in-law wanted to have

an engagement party. I was fine with that. I just requested that she not invite my father.

I explained that we had a strained relationship, and that I preferred to keep him at a distance.

She agreed. I guess she thought that she knew better than me. She wanted to fix our relationship,

and the first step was inviting him to her home for a party with alcohol. When I met my dad

for dinner, I specifically chose a restaurant that did not have a liquor license, and we went

right after work. His car has a built-in breathalyzer to make it start. I know what would happen

otherwise. When I saw my dad there, my stomach flipped. I asked my future mother-in-law what was

going on, and she said that a good daughter would want her dad to be there on this important day.

I asked her to please make him leave. She said that I was being rude. I went over to my dad and

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