Welcome to R-slash Am I the butthole where O.P.'s daughter expects O.P. to pay her $350,000?

Am I the butthole for not giving my daughter the money that was reserved for my grandkids?

I'm a 58 year old man, and me and my wife have only one daughter who's 30.

We always wish that we could have had more kids, but due to medical complications that I won't get into, we only had one girl.

Because of that, we've always dreamed of being grandparents.

So we made long-term investments that paid off, and now we have almost $350,000 saved up to raise our future grandkids and cover their college expenses.

I want to make it clear that we never pressured our daughter to have kids in any way.

She simply knows that we have the money and what it's intended for.

The thing is, our daughter recently made the decision to not have kids.

She told us a few months ago and even got her tubes tied.

We were both a bit shocked and asked if she was sure, but we also reassured her that we'll always be there for her.

I won't lie, I'm really disappointed, but I'm not disappointed in our daughter.

It's her life, and it's not our place to impose anything on her.

My disappointment stems from the fact that I won't have grandkids.

However, if this is what makes her happy, I have no right to say anything about it.

Last week, we had a lunch at our house with our daughter and she brought up the topic of the money that we had saved for our future grandkids.

We simply told her that we'd make use of it differently now.

For example, I'll be able to work fewer hours before retirement and we plan to use the money for travel.

At that moment, our daughter's expression changed and she fell silent.

When my wife asked if she was okay, my daughter suddenly exploded,

accusing us of punishing her for not having kids and taking away the money that she would have used if she'd had kids.

The situation became really tense and she stormed out after the argument.

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