Quick Cut: S2E323 How to Communicate to Connect with Vanessa Van Edwards

It's a Good Life

Brian Buffini

Business, Unknown, Entrepreneurship, Life, Good, Entrepreneur, Coaching

4.4 • 2.4K Ratings

🗓️ 21 August 2025

⏱️ 11 minutes

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When your connections with people deepen, your influence, impact and income increase. In this episode, bestselling author and speaker Vanessa Van Edwards outlines how to best communicate to create meaningful engagement with others.

YOU WILL LEARN:

· Three questions to elevate elevate your connection

NOTEWORTHY QUOTES FROM THIS EPISODE:

“We need more than ever to be connected, to be turned on, to be engaged.” – Vanessa Van Edwards

“We are able to gift people dopamine in conversation.” – Vanessa Van Edwards

“We love people who gift us dopamine and we create mental markers for those people.” – Vanessa Van Edwards

“The biggest mistake that we make is we think that social skills or connection will happen by osmosis, or naturally, the more we work with people. That could not be further from the truth.” – Vanessa Van Edwards

“If you decide you're going to change your victim mindset into a redemption mindset, your world will change.” – Vanessa Van Edwards

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0:00.0	Welcome to It's a Good Life with Brian Bafini, founder of America's largest business coaching company.
0:10.4	Here's a short classic cut from one of our all-time favorite episodes.
0:17.4	Well, top of the morning to you and welcome to It's a Good Life.
0:21.1	Today we have a special guest.
0:23.7	Not only is she a phenomenal communicator, an absolute delight as a human being, but one of our most popular episodes ever.
0:31.0	And that is the great Vanessa Van Edwards.
0:33.4	Vanessa, we are delighted to have you today.
0:35.8	I'm so happy to be back.
0:37.2	I'm honored. I'm honored.
0:39.3	I really want to know how our communication affects our connection with those around us,
0:44.5	especially in days like this. Yes. This is one of my favorite topics because it was such a
0:49.9	personal struggle. I felt like for many years, I don't know if you've had this experience where
0:54.4	you really want to connect, right? You're going to networking events. You're saying yes. You're
0:59.5	meeting all the people. And you feel like you're having the same conversations over and over again
1:05.4	where it's like it's a social script. And I realized I was asking the wrong questions. I was like
1:12.0	something is happening in my conversations where I am triggering autopilot because it feels like
1:17.7	these connections aren't going below the surface. I just felt like I was having these shallow,
1:23.2	not real conversations. And so I did a little experiment where I had a hypothesis. I wondered,
1:29.2	could I change the nature of a connection with the type of questions that I asked? And so we did a
1:35.4	very interesting experiment. We did three speed networking events. So speed networking events is exactly
1:40.5	what it sounds like. You have really quick conversations to try to connect. And I assigned
1:44.7	everyone six different conversation starters. And we did a couple things. First is we set up cameras in all
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