He was never, ever, ever going to come up to me. He was never going to talk to you. Ever. And probably never going to talk to most women. Yeah. He doesn't have to. He just sits around. He's like a spider in a web. Not even. He's a lazy spider. He just needs someone to lead him to eat the thing that lands in his web. Dear Shandy. Welcome back to Dear Shandy listeners. Hello, Andy. Hello. How are you today? I'm good, bright-eyed. Ready to go. Bushy-tailed? And a... And bushy-tailed, yeah. Yes, yes. That too. Speaking of bushy-tails, little ruby. Oh, the the busiest of tails. Oh, my God.

You know what the best is is when she's playing it cool? Yeah. It's supposed to just be like lying there and completely just, you think she's like half asleep. Yeah. And she sees you coming up the stairs and her tail just starts going like a helicopter. Yeah, but the rest of her is not moving. Face expression doesn't change. Yeah. It's so cute.

Someone last week was annoyed that we are so into dogs after which is like, phased expression doesn't change. Yeah, it's so cute.

Someone last week was annoyed that we are so into dogs after say, the person was saying that they've been into dogs forever.

Wait, what?

Did you see that comment?

They said that, oh, we were too soon.

No, someone was like, you being such dog people or being self-proclaimed dog people is like someone moving to New York and immediately calling themselves a New Yorker.

That's ridiculous.

New York is a much more complex experience than having a dog for the first time.

That's like saying like opening up like a can of rotten sardines is you have to do that more than a few times to understand that that's not a good experience. So maybe the person is saying that in order to truly be a dog person, you have to pay your dues and have been a dog person for like a decade. That's absurd. Again, another analogy. This is easy to bust with analogies. That's like eating ice cream for the first time.

You're like, oh, my God, ice cream.

I want more of this.

You're like, whoa, whoa, hold on a second. You haven't tried all the flavors. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Well, I think part of the New York thing is like part of, you might move to New York and love New York, but like you haven't experienced the hardship of New York yet until you've been here for a while.

Like New York, you have've been here for a while.

Like New York, you have to come to love to hate as much as you love in order to be a New Yorker. Yes, you have to see the complexities of it. You can't just get a quick taste and say I'm a New Yorker. With a dog, you can have a dog for a day and be like, okay, I'm done. I'm a dog person. Okay. I accept. We'll see if people agree or disagree.

Well, Andy, today we are getting to our Shandy's cues.

It's Q&A Day. Let's do it. person. Okay. We'll see if people agree or disagree. Well, Andy, today we are getting to our Shandy's

cues. It's Q&A day. The heart and soul, as one Shandy once said. All right, this first question is from A.

A is in the letter. A. Dear Shandy, I love listening to the podcast, both relationship episodes and recaps. Oh, thank you. Thank you. I've been

dealing with some friend issues recently and wanted to get your perspective. I am 30 female and will use A for my name.

In the past few years, I have noticed friends of both me and my husband, who is 33 male, do not respond to

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