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Dear Shandy

Q&A! Demystifying The Moody Husband & Is Timing *Really* Everything? - Ep 466

Dear Shandy

Sharleen Joynt & Andy Levine

Tv & Film, Relationships, Society & Culture, After Shows

4.94K Ratings

🗓️ 21 May 2026

⏱️ 73 minutes

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Summary

It's Q&A time! We're back, answering YOUR burning questions! If you and your longtime platonic friend have been secretly crushing on each other, is it now or never to make a move, even if he's started dating someone new? (Speak now or forever hold your peace?) If your friend has volunteered YOU to help her move, can you worm your way out of it, or is it best to roll up your sleeves and help? And what can be done if your partner of 16 years has become a moody grump? Can people actually change, or must you grin and bear it? Come join us in our living room for good conversation and the Shandy take!


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Time Stamps:

0:00 - Housekeeping

2:14 - Q1: My Longtime Friend And I Are Secretly Crushing But Timing Isn’t Our Friend—Help!

16:54 - Q2: My “Friend” Has Assumed I’ll Help Her Move Homes—Can I Get Out Of This?

26:03 - Q3: My Boyfriend & I Are Finally Moving In Together But I Fear Compromising On This One Thing—Help!

34:12 - Q4: I’m An Adult But These Former Colleagues Make Me Feel Like I’m In Junior High—Help!

44:58 - Q5: My Husband Is Moody And It’s Driving Me Nuts!




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Transcript

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0:00.0

Oh, Danny boy, the mood, the mood is souring.

0:12.0

Dear Shandy.

0:16.0

Welcome back to Dear Shandy listeners. Hello, Andy. How are you today?

0:20.5

You know, just another day spinning

0:22.8

on a little rock in an infinite black void yeah andy's been thinking a lot about space you guys

0:29.2

yeah thinking a lot about it what brought about this extra space thinking i don't know i think that

0:36.0

we as humans have lost sight of our humility.

0:39.8

We are just a tiny speck of a speck of a speck of a speck of dust in a freezing, freezing cold, black void.

0:47.7

And, you know, I think we should check ourselves a little bit there.

0:50.7

Do you think that it's helpful to be fully aware of how irrelevant you are? Yes. I do think it is.

0:59.2

I think it's very helpful. I also think it's important to think about the fact that we are spinning

1:04.0

on this little rock in the middle of nothingness. And if the earth were to stop spinning suddenly at the rate it's spinning at,

1:13.3

we would all fly into a wall and turn into ketchup. Really? Oh, instantly. Catchup. Maybe not even

1:19.6

a thick ketchup, a thin ketchup. Yeah. That's weird to think about it. We'd be obliterated. Okay.

1:25.4

Yeah. 1100 miles per hour. Wow. To zero. Imagine going that fast and then that's low.

1:30.8

Okay. I do some fun facts today. Do you feel ready to get to our Shandy's relationship questions though? Because we are, we might be irrelevant, but we're, you know, all on this rock.

1:41.1

Yeah, we are. We are spinning. And we all have our quandaries to deal with every single day.

1:46.3

That are as important as anything. The thing I always think about is, yes, the size and vastness and

1:52.1

emptiness of the universe humbles us. But at the same time, it gives us great power. Because

1:56.6

what makes our relationship question any less important than some ginormous black hole that's eating a galaxy

2:03.2

a billion light years away it's true same thing it's all the same yes egalitarian that the universe

2:09.5

takes no prisoners everything is equal yes even playing field yes okay shall we get going no let's do it

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