Q&A! Dating Despite A Dealbreaker & Was His Anniversary Gift Kinky Or Just Inappropriate? - Ep 429

Dear Shandy

Sharleen Joynt & Andy Levine

Tv & Film, Society & Culture, Relationships, After Shows

4.9 • 3.3K Ratings

🗓️ 4 December 2025

⏱️ 84 minutes

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Summary

It's Q&A time! We're back, answering YOUR burning questions! If you and your podcast co-host disagree on whether or not to release an episode, should you compromise or stick to your perfectionism? If you know a relationship is doomed, is it still worth exploring for the experience of having "loved and lost"? If your entire family has near-daily Zoom calls, are you the A-hole for not wanting to participate? And if your husband gifts you a solo sex toy for your anniversary, is it kinky or just plain rude?? Come join us in our living room for the Shandy take!

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Time Stamps:

0:00 - Housekeeping

2:59 - Q1: My Podcast Co-Host Wants To Release An Episode I Don’t Like—What Should I Do?

11:12 - Q2: Is It Better To Have Loved And Lost Than To Have Never Loved At All?

24:27 - Q3: My Entire Family Has A Zoom Call Almost Daily—Is This Normal & Do I Really Have To Join?

49:06 - Q4: My Husband Gifted Himself A Solo Sex Toy For Our Anniversary—Am I Overreacting?

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Transcript

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0:42.7	Oh, but for all the time's sake, maybe you shouldn't forget all the acquaintances.
0:43.8	Maybe you're a dick.
0:45.0	That's what it's saying. For old langs-in, my dear, for old langs-zine, we'll take a cup of kindness yet for her old legs.
0:55.9	I knew it.
0:56.6	It's a passive aggressive song.
1:01.0	Dear Shandy.
1:05.2	Welcome back to Dear Shandy listeners.
1:07.2	Hello, Andy.
1:07.9	Hello.
1:08.5	How are you today?
1:09.6	You're good.
1:10.4	I'm good.
1:11.9	How are you? I'm good. Chili. You're chilly. Yeah. But it's good. It's good for the mind. Well, you could wear a sweater. Everyone's telling you, Andy. Everyone's telling you that you look good in clothes. I'm going to start wearing more clothes in 2026. Like when we say clothes, we mean real clothes. That's going to happen. Oh, you know, I like your Haynes White Venex, but I have to admit you look good in real clothes. Well, regardless, 26 will be the year of clothes for me. You guys have gotten to Andy officially. Whenever he wears something, like a real piece of clothing, everyone goes on and on and on about how good he looks. And now I can see it starting to, like, affect him.
1:45.3	You know what I feel like? I feel like one of those people who has a real problem, like a problem that everyone knows about and everyone whispers about behind their back. Okay. And it doesn't really confront them with it. It's too big a problem. It's like uncomfortable. Wait, so what is, and so what happens is they'll do something
2:01.7	that's like a tiny bit, like just a tiny little bit in the direction away from that problem.
2:07.4	And everyone's like, oh, that's amazing. Look at you. Wow. They're sending group emails about it.
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