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The Virtual Couch

Putting the Light Into Gaslight - Exploring the 4 Types of Gaslighting

The Virtual Couch

Tony Overbay LMFT

Education, Mental Health, Health & Fitness, Self-improvement

5643 Ratings

🗓️ 4 August 2021

⏱️ 53 minutes

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Summary

The phrase "gaslighting" is making the rounds lately, and with the increased awareness around the term, many people are accusing their spouses, parents, and co-workers of gaslighting them in all areas of life. A lot of times, the accuser is correct, by definition, meaning yes, the person they are accusing may be trying to convince them that what they are saying isn't true, but is gaslighting always intentional? Can gaslighting come from a place of simply being misunderstood or is it always calculated and malicious? In today's episode I cover an article on The Good Men Project's website called: 4 Levels of Gaslighting: From Unconscious to Malicious by Paget Norton, and I also give more listener examples of gaslighting. Go to tonyoverbay.com/magnetic today to learn more about Tony's next round of the Magnetic Marriage course!

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0:00.0

Well, let me see a seat on the virtual cast. Well, let me start today's podcast by saying, you're welcome, because I'm about to hand you a gift.

0:29.0

You will be able to share what I'm about to tell you with anybody today, and I'm going to guess

0:32.9

that they will not have heard of what you're going to share.

0:37.4

So I had a client in my office.

0:39.4

It was a few days ago, and we were talking about the fact that I've done a lot of episodes

0:43.8

of the podcast now.

0:44.8

And I was thinking about it.

0:46.1

And I'm almost to the four-year anniversary of the podcast.

0:49.4

And on one of the very early episodes, I was talking with a guest and we were talking about when clients come in

0:55.7

the office and they just assume that you know everything about every psychological principle known

0:59.7

to man. And this particular client said, well, I'm sure you're familiar with lichanthropy.

1:05.2

And I said, I'm really not. And he said, really? Lichenthropy? Clinical lichensthropy? Maybe that, maybe that rings a bell. And that was years ago. And I still remember feeling a little bit anxious thinking, oh my gosh, did I miss something? Is clinical lichanthropy, this really simple concept that I should have learned, not even in grad school, but in psychology 101, does every student learn early on about clinical lycanthropy?

1:28.2

And this was a time that I fell asleep early in class, you know, am I bad therapist?

1:32.1

Because I can't pull this one right out of my head.

1:34.5

And so then I said, I had to stand there in my confidence and say, I really don't know about

1:38.8

clinical lycanthropy.

1:39.7

And he continued to go on and on about how, wow, boy, have you been doing this for a long

1:44.0

time? And he continued to go on and on about how, wow, boy, have you been doing this for a long time,

1:44.2

I would have assumed you knew this.

1:45.8

And it turns out, let me define clinical lycanthropy.

1:49.2

Clinical lycanthropy is defined as a rare psychiatric syndrome that involves a delusion that the affected person can transform into, has transformed into, or is an animal. And its name is associated with the

2:02.8

mythical condition of lichenthropy or a supernatural affliction in which humans are said to

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