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The Virtual Couch

All You Need is Love...But What Kind of Love? Simplifying Sternberg’s Triangular Theory of Love

The Virtual Couch

Tony Overbay LMFT

Education, Mental Health, Health & Fitness, Self-improvement

5643 Ratings

🗓️ 28 July 2021

⏱️ 41 minutes

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Summary

In English, we use the word love to describe a variety of emotional states. Are we talking about passionate love, intimate love, committed love, unconditional love or do you tell somebody that you love them simply as a term of endearment? Some people grew up hearing “I love you” on a daily basis in their family, while others are still waiting for the day that their parent may finally utter those three simple words that they have been craving since childhood. Tony talks about Sternberg’s Triangular Theory of Love, and how not only our interpretation of the word, or concept of love, as well as how we put “love” into action can go a long way in describing our relationships...from where they are now, to what you may long for. (Tony refers to the article https://www.elitesingles.com/mag/relationship-advice/consummate-love (https://www.elitesingles.com/mag/relationship-advice/consummate-love) throughout the episode). Head to tonyoverbay.com/magnetic to be the first to know the start date of Tony's next round of his "Magnetic Marriage" course. This episode of The Virtual Couch is sponsored by http://betterhelp.com/virtualcouch (http://betterhelp.com/virtualcouch) With the continuing “sheltering” rules that are spreading across the country PLEASE do not think that you can’t continue or begin therapy now. http://betterhelp.com/virtualcouch (http://betterhelp.com/virtualcouch) can put you quickly in touch with licensed mental health professionals who can meet through text, email, or videoconference often as soon as 24-48 hours. And if you use the link http://betterhelp.com/virtualcouch (http://betterhelp.com/virtualcouch) you will receive 10% off your first month of services. Please make your own mental health a priority, http://betterhelp.com/virtualcouch (http://betterhelp.com/virtualcouch)offers affordable counseling, and they even have sliding scale options if your budget is tight. Tony's FREE parenting course, “Tips For Parenting Positively Even In the Not So Positive Times” is available NOW. Just go to https://www.tonyoverbay.com/courses-2/ (https://www.tonyoverbay.com/courses-2/)and sign up today. This course will help you understand why it can be so difficult to communicate with and understand your children. You’ll learn how to keep your buttons hidden, how to genuinely give praise that will truly build inner wealth in your child, teen, or even in your adult children, and you’ll learn how to move from being “the punisher” to being someone your children will want to go to when they need help.Tony's new best-selling book "He's a Porn Addict...Now What? An Expert and a Former Addict Answer Your Questions" is now available on Kindle. https://amzn.to/38mauBoTony Overbay, is the co-author of "He's a Porn Addict...Now What? An Expert and a Former Addict Answer Your Questions" now available on Amazon https://amzn.to/33fk0U4 (https://amzn.to/33fk0U4). The book debuted in the number 1 spot in the Sexual Health Recovery category and remains there as the time of this record. The book has received numerous positive reviews from professionals in the mental health and recovery fields.You can learn more about Tony's pornography recovery program The Path Back by visiting http://pathbackrecovery.com (http://pathbackrecovery.com) And visit http://tonyoverbay.com (http://tonyoverbay.com) and sign up to receive updates on upcoming programs, and podcasts.Tony mentioned a product that he used to take out all of the "uh's" and "um's" that, in his words,

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0:00.0

So I've shared on many, many occasions that I spent 10 years in the computer industry before I went back to school and got my master's in counseling, which started me on the journey to where I am today.

0:10.7

And while I can't even imagine what would have happened if I hadn't changed careers almost 20 years ago now, I'll admit that there were some fun times in the computer industry.

0:19.3

Sometimes I feel like I make it sound like it was all horrible,

0:22.2

but I got to travel and I traveled a ton.

0:24.4

I traveled the world, literally.

0:26.3

I know I went to Japan over 30 times,

0:28.6

and I went all throughout Europe and China and Russia

0:31.1

and back and forth across the United States

0:33.6

more than I would even care to count.

0:36.3

And there were some good stories that went along with that

0:38.2

too. I had an experience once in the world-renowned Japanese fish market where the sushi was so

0:43.4

incredibly fresh that once, while I wasn't really paying much attention as it was being handed to me,

0:48.8

I was handed a piece that when I brought it up to my mouth, part of it, and I don't know if it

0:52.3

was the tail or something moved, smacked my hand, and I, A, screamed, and then I, B, threw it across the room,

0:59.8

which was much to the delight of my host, Mr. Yoshida-san, and the dozens and dozens of guests

1:04.6

in the restaurant. Or there was a time where I was staying in a hotel in Southern California and admittedly clad only in my underwear bottoms.

1:11.8

I looked out of my room through the little peephole only to see that I was lacking my

1:15.9

USA Today newspaper. And at the time, that was a big deal. But the room across for me had one.

1:21.0

And I had to go to the bathroom. So I decided quite impulsively to just run across the hallway.

1:26.9

I was going to borrow my neighbors. And I'm pretty sure that my plan was that I would return

1:31.2

that newspaper across the hall when I was done taking care of business.

1:34.5

So as I made my way across the hallway, it really did hit me just as I heard my door slam closed

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