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comes from courtney in washington courtney writes i'm 23 and i've been married for one year last 90 he

admitted to me that i'm assuming husband my husband admitted to me that i am better with money

meaning i don't like debt and that he spends more than he makes he gave me his credit card and debit card to hold and asked me to give him

an allowance for necessary purchases. He has a bad habit of using credit, payment plans,

and buying too many toys. I don't like the idea of holding his cards and controlling his actions.

I understand accountability partnership, but I believe putting limitations on a full-grown man will

lead to resentment our marriage, even if he asked for it. Is his asking me to hold his cards

reasonable? If I do hold his cards for a period, what can I do to make those spending habits stay

gone? How do you get so wise at 23 years old? Courtney, you are Courtney Courtney! I was about saying the same thing, man.

Touchdown.

Who is this person?

It's amazing.

Wow.

So, hey, I want to give...

I had this exact conversation.

I was probably 26, maybe 25.

Like, I see the trajectory.

I see the things that plagued my family growing up, and I'm on the track.

And it was kind of like, I need you to drive.

Now in retrospect, I understand that that started a power struggle between me and my wife that lasted years and years and years.

And so I like, I'm happy for this dude that he was like, hey, I'm not doing this right.

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