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andre in indiana i'm being managed out of my job at my current employer when i realized what was

happening i got ahead of it and have turned in my resignation so i won't have a termination on my

employment record i have several interviews lined up and I'm not worried about

finding another position. My question is, how should I approach obtaining a letter of reference from my

current employer should I need it? Well, you're going to approach it now before you leave the

building. Number one, number two, you're going to approach it with some gratitude and humility

and just say, hey, I appreciate this opportunity to be here. And I would love if you feel

comfortable being a reference for me and give me a reference letter upon request. Are you

comfortable with that? It's just a man-to-man conversation or man-to-woman conversation.

And that's about all you can do there. And hopefully you've left well. We don't know what the situation here is, but I'm such a proponent for people leaving well.

Even if you feel like you're not supposed to be there anymore, even if you feel like you've got

some tension, you feel like maybe it wasn't the best situation for you, leaving well and not

burning that bridge is always the right way to go,

because you have to assume that any future employer is going to call your past employer.

And so humility and gratitude in class would be the three ingredients in the ask.

And, by the way, with every remaining second you have at that place before you leave, act with class.

Yeah.

Smile.

Act with class.

Do everything.

So most employers, Andre, do not give references on formers because of the liability.

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