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Dear Tisia

Purpose Before Love: Integrity, Healing, and Choosing the Right Man

Dear Tisia

Relationship Restored

Society & Culture, Relationships

5.0866 Ratings

🗓️ 26 January 2026

⏱️ 71 minutes

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Summary

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In this powerful guest episode, Tisia sits down with Nate Cottman for an honest, grounded conversation about love, purpose, healing, and what actually matters when choosing a partner.
Nate brings a refreshing perspective on masculinity, integrity, and emotional depth, reminding us that a man’s purpose should come before partnership. Drawing from spirituality and the biblical story of Adam being given purpose before Eve, Nate explains why diligence, alignment, and character matter more than charm or chemistry.
Together, Tisia and Nate explore:
  • What women should truly look for in a man beyond attraction
  • Why integrity and purpose are non-negotiables
  • Emotional transparency and being known for your heart
  • How family dynamics and father wounds shape how we love
  • The role of faith and staying aligned with God
  • Emotional regulation vs shrinking yourself in relationships
  • When effort is reciprocal… and when it’s not
  • Therapy, healing, and timing in relationships

💌 Dear Tisia Voicemail SegmentThey also unpack a listener voicemail from a woman who feels like she’s losing herself trying to stay chosen in her relationship. The discussion breaks down:
  • Emotional regulation without silencing your needs
  • Whether effort after conflict is growth or a red flag
  • How to tell if a relationship needs boundaries — or an ending

This episode is for anyone navigating love while trying to stay whole, aligned, and emotionally honest — without over-investing in relationships that cost you yourself.
🎁 The episode closes with a heartfelt moment of appreciation and a surprise gift for Nate, celebrating friendship, empathy, and seeing the value in one another.
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Transcript

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0:00.0

A woman should look for a man that lives by a principal.

0:03.5

That lives by principles.

0:04.8

He's a principled man.

0:06.0

You know what I'm saying?

0:06.5

Like he stands on principle.

0:08.2

That's big because you're going to see that manifests itself in different areas of his life.

0:14.3

He should be a man of integrity.

0:16.6

He should be diligent.

0:20.0

He should be a faithful man.

0:22.4

So when I say that I'm not just speaking in terms of his faithfulness to a woman,

0:27.0

he should be a faithful man.

0:28.4

Like whatever he puts his hand to do, if he says he's going to do it,

0:31.8

you should see the fruit of what he said he was going to do in his life.

0:34.9

You know what I'm saying?

0:36.0

A woman should look for a man that's driven by something that's greater than himself right a purpose that's greater than himself before god gave adam anything he gave him his purpose before god gave adam a woman he gave him his purpose he gave him an assignment this is what i want you to do i want you to name the animals i want you to to keep the guard and i want you to oversee it he gave him a purpose you know I'm saying, by which he was supposed to, you know what I'm saying, manifest things. And so when you see a man that's driven by purpose and not just purpose, but a God given purpose, because there is also a purpose that the enemy gives us. When you see a man that's driven by a purpose that God gives him, that purpose to keep him when he wants to,

1:12.4

when he wants to, you know what I'm saying, go off track.

1:14.5

So I think those things are important for sure. Hey y'all, welcome back to Deer to see.

1:36.3

First of all, first thing first, okay.

1:38.6

Get into the dress.

1:39.5

This is a party dress because, you know, I'm really getting inspired for spring.

1:43.7

Also, like, my nails are very springish.

1:45.7

I'm also a spring baby, okay?

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