Purity Meets Purpose (Guests: Shakia Seabrook)

Dear Future Wifey

Laterras R. Whitfield

Religion & Spirituality, Relationships, Education, Christianity, Society & Culture

5 • 1.9K Ratings

🗓️ 26 November 2025

⏱️ 120 minutes

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Summary

In a culture obsessed with casual relationships, Shakia Seabrook stands as a powerful counternarrative. This episode dives deep into her journey as the founder of The Sexless Tribe, a community dedicated to abstinence and purity that has grown from social media conversations to global meetups with hundreds of attendees.

Shakia shares her remarkable story of maintaining virginity at 37 years old - not from a place of religious upbringing, but from witnessing the emotional toll of casual relationships around her. What makes her perspective unique is her recent awakening to actually desiring marriage after years of contentment in singleness. Through her seven-year wilderness experience where God stripped away everything, she discovered a deeper purpose in creating a movement that's changing lives across continents.

## Timestamps:

- 8:30 - Shakia explains how she maintained purity without religious influence

- 22:15 - The birth of The Sexless Tribe and how it grew from Instagram Lives

- 36:40 - Her seven-year wilderness experience that shaped her ministry

- 48:25 - The double standard between how society views male and female sexuality

- 1:01:30 - Her thoughts on dating timeframes and what she's looking for in a partner

## Key Takeaways:

- Purity isn't just for the religiously raised - it can be a personal choice based on witnessing the consequences of casual relationships

- Building a community around abstinence creates support systems for those who feel isolated in their convictions

- There's often a double standard where men want to "sow wild oats" but expect purity from potential wives

- True intimacy requires vulnerability and letting someone fully into your life - something Shakia is now learning to embrace

Ready to be inspired by a woman who's created a global movement around purity while navigating her own journey toward marriage? Listen now to this powerful conversation that challenges cultural norms and celebrates the beauty of waiting.

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0:00.0	A big thing I want is a man to choose me. I hate with men like, it wasn't who I wanted, but she was who I needed. Ew, I'm a throw up. Does he have to be a virgin? He doesn't have to be a virgin, but he does have to have done the work to unpack his past. He's going to bring into our marriage the things that he experienced outside of our marriage. And I don't feel like I should be responsible for that. That's not fair for me. you can't bring those expectations
0:23.3	into our marriage.
0:24.4	Do you feel like I should be responsible for that. That's not fair for me.
0:21.9	You can't bring those expectations into our marriage. Do you feel like men value your virginity? Yes. They fetishize it. And I think it's insulting in a way. Men want to be able to do what they do. But then when it's time to get a wife, it's like, I want that one because she's never been with, but do I want you
0:37.0	respectfully. Welcome to Dear Future Wipy
0:39.0	Podcast, my homie, Shikia Seba.
0:41.1	Woo! It's like, I want that one because she's never been with, but do I want you respectfully. Welcome to Dear Future Wifee podcast, my homie, Seahoe. I've been knowing Shakia for a few years now. She has this powerful platform called The Sexless Tribe. I'm glad that she's able to come now because at first she wasn't trying to date nobody. Yeah. I know that's not sexy to be talking about not having sex. I remember when I first saw that on my page, I said, why would they call themselves that? That is so lame. But even in my opinion about it, it still doesn't stop God from causing the movement. I could have changed the name, but I think it's provocative. Oh, they're proud. They have a good time. They're confident. They're honored and God with their body.
1:11.7	When you look at the work that's being done, you can't deny it.
1:14.5	The past meet up, I just had 500 plus people. I remember coming out on the stage, it was like a theater. And I remember I said, y'all got to give me a minute to take this in. but all i can do is keep giving my yes and giving god the glory it was a stage in your life where
1:26.6	you're a virgin but didn't even desire marriage. Why? There's no rhyme or reason. I just didn't have the desire. Before I built the sexless tribe, me being a virgin wasn't a big part of my life. I was just living life normally. It wasn't a thing I thought of like, oh, I'm a virgin. What was the switch that flipped? One is when I gave my yes to God. My yes has been heavy.
1:45.4	The darkest of the dark, the saddest of the sad, the low of the low, and I do that by
1:49.1	myself.
1:49.8	By yourself.
1:50.4	That's where like I need my person.
1:53.1	A guy meets you today.
1:54.7	If he proposed to you three months later, would that be too soon?
2:00.6	The Dear Future Wafee podcast has global impact from Texas.
2:04.8	I have been on this journey of healing and self-discovery, and this podcast has been a vital
2:10.3	part of my process.
2:11.8	Guyana.
2:12.4	God's establishing through you a legacy, a display of freedom found in authentic spirituality.
2:19.9	California.
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