I think as individuals we've been wired by God to somehow compartmentalize

difficult things in our lives and certainly if trauma has been part of your story there's probably part of your

brain that just pushes that into a place and locks it and doesn't go there anymore.

Well we want to encourage you to find a safe place to start to deal with that.

And I'm John Fuller talking with Dr. Danny Werta who is a counselor and leads our parenting team and

Danny childhood wounds, whether it's kind of what we call big tea trauma or

little tea trauma, they tend to follow us, don't they?

They do, they do.

I mean they fester like like bad food inside the stomach inside the body and if you

just leave it in there if the body never expels all that it really affects how a person feels

and childhood wounds affects how a person feels. Childhood wounds affect our trust,

and trust is a foundational element

to relational connectedness.

It allows us to receive love and to give love.

It's like this bridge, right, this trait that opens up the opportunity for love to

flow between two people or between relationships and I've seen a stunting of that in kids that have

grown up into adults and say I don't trust anyone.

This is what happened to me as a child and they've never moved on from that and emotionally

They deal with life at that age level

Rather than the adult they are now. So where the trauma occurred kind of tends to stunt our emotional development?

And all of a sudden we're dealing with adult things as if we're 13 or 12 or 11 emotionally and it creates even more messes down the road and then you go see

I can't trust anyone because I've created this type of response to life and so yeah it creates messiness down the road.

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