Hey everybody. Thank you so much for listening to my podcast today. Today we're going to be talking

about the pressure that a lot of women face when it comes to getting married and having kids

by a certain age. and in particular, how to

confront relatives who pressure us about those things. So I'm going to start off by reading a listener

question, and she says, how do you deal with annoying relatives that ask questions the moment

that you enter marriageable age without sounding rude.

Is there another way to deal with this other than being sarcastic because they suck at sarcasm?

So I just tend to be direct like, that's none of your business, which just comes across as rude.

L.O.L. Thank you so much for your question and I'm excited to get into it today. So the first thing to realize is that when somebody asks you a question, your emotional reaction to that question is based on what already exists inside of you. So for example, if I ask you, so are you thinking about learning how to play the

guitar anytime soon, you probably would feel very neutral about my question and you wouldn't have a

reaction to that. You would just answer me. You have no emotional hangups or baggage or expectations

of yourself when it comes to guitar learning skills. If instead, I or a family

member were to ask you, so are you thinking about getting married anytime soon? You might feel

triggered because of what already exists inside of you, which would be like insecurities about your

age or your timeline or pressure about getting

married and having kids by a certain age and all of that just gets stirred up by their comment.

And so usually when we feel annoyed or pressured, we want to immediately blame the person

that we perceive is doing that to us. But really, what's just

happening is they're asking a question and that's triggering something that's already been inside of us.

And it's not their fault that we're feeling that way. In fact, you could even go as far as to

thank them for triggering that because it gives you an opportunity to deal with that kind of

emotional stuff that comes up. And so the way that we deal with that stuff is we look at the

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