Pornography Use: A New Perspective [Room for Two Teaser]

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Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife

Self-improvement, Education, Mental Health, Sexuality, Health & Fitness

4.4 • 978 Ratings

🗓️ 22 April 2025

⏱️ 35 minutes

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Summary

David has been battling a pornography compulsion for much of his life. He’s read the books, listened to the podcasts, joined the groups, and tried every program he could find. But despite his best efforts, his behavior continues. The repeated use—and the cycle of disclosure that follows—has taken a toll on their marriage. David is upfront when he slips—but this is in the form of turning to Alexa for forgiveness and reassurance. When Alexa distances following his disclosure, he often grows impatient. In this episode of Room for Two, Dr. Finlayson-Fife works with David and Alexa to better understand what’s keeping them stuck. She offers David a new perspective—that he would benefit from acknowledging the part of him that wants the escape of pornography, and that until he confronts that reality, genuine change will remain out of reach. Subscribe to Room for Two to listen to the FULL episode (and the rest of the David and Alexa series)

Transcript

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0:00.0	Hi there. This is Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife. The episode that follows is a preview
0:13.3	episode of Room for Two, my couples coaching podcast. In this episode, I address one of the most
0:19.3	challenging issues couples face in marriage,
0:22.0	pornography use. David has worked hard to curb his use without success. But in this session,
0:28.1	I challenge the way he's been approaching the issue and offer him a very different perspective.
0:34.3	If pornography has impacted your life or relationship, I encourage you to subscribe to
0:38.6	room for two to hear the full series. And if you subscribe, you'll be invited to join me for a live
0:44.0	Q&A on Wednesday, April 30th at 8 p.m. Mountain Time. During this Q&A, I'll be answering
0:50.1	subscribers' questions about pornography, how it affects marriage, how to better understand
0:55.3	your own patterns and your partners, and what to consider if you're ready for real change.
1:01.2	So click the link in the show notes to subscribe. You'll get immediate access to the full
1:05.5	David and Alexa series and over a hundred more episodes that are just as powerful.
1:11.5	Hi everyone. Dr. Jennifer here. As you listen to the coaching session that follows, you might
1:16.9	be surprised by how much this couple's experiences resonate with your own. Because as humans,
1:22.0	we have a tendency to get stuck in very similar ways, and it's often easier to see these
1:26.7	patterns in others, which is why
1:28.9	Room for Two is such a powerful learning tool. So when you listen, you'll likely see yourself
1:33.6	in these episodes. And when you do, I encourage you to use the feedback I offer to make
1:38.8	important changes in your own life and your own relationship. Please note that to protect privacy,
1:45.0	the names, voices,
1:49.2	and identifying features of the couples have been altered, but they're sharing their stories generously to help all of us. So I hope you'll benefit from what you learn here. Welcome to Room
1:55.1	for Two.
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