Podcast 478: 6 Strategies to Stop Fights Before they Begin

CLEANING UP YOUR MENTAL MESS with Dr. Caroline Leaf

Dr. Caroline Leaf

Health & Fitness, Mental Health

4.6 • 3.2K Ratings

🗓️ 1 May 2023

⏱️ 20 minutes

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SHOW DESCRIPTION: In this podcast I talk about ways to stop fights before they begin. Relationships can be hard, whether you are talking about friends, romantic partners, family, or colleagues. Fights and arguments are often inevitable, but that does not mean that there are steps we can take to make our relationships stronger and prevent fights and arguments before they begin.

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EPISODE HIGHLIGHTS:

0:32 Why it is important to try to prevent arguments before they begin

1:26, 5:30 How to approach conflicts with curiosity

7:47 How to change the way you see the conflict

9:05, 12:00, 15:00 How words can stop or start an argument

10:03 Why you should practice the 10 second pause before responding to conflict

11:00 Walking away is not always a bad thing!

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0:00.0	Hi, I'm Dr Caroline Leif and welcome to my podcast, Cleaning Up the Mental Mass.
0:10.0	Well, today I'm going to talk about something that has helped me so much and it's something
0:15.2	that we actually did a post on as well and we had such a great response.
0:19.2	I decided that this is something we need to talk about and that is tips to stop fight
0:23.8	before they begin.
0:29.1	So if you know there's going to be a situation that could potentially land up as an argument
0:34.0	or in a fight, whether it's a high level one or a low level one whatever on a continuum.
0:39.3	So think about maybe with a partner in relationship with maybe a friend, maybe a business colleague,
0:46.3	maybe a family member or a whole family or a, you know, like holidays or a classic time
0:52.5	when people get into fights and if you know there's going to be fights, you know, there's
0:55.9	some tips for that too.
0:57.6	Maybe a business discussion, maybe these are really heated things going on in your business
1:01.5	and there's a lot of disagreement around the concepts you know the fights going to happen.
1:06.1	And so you know, these are the kinds of situations potentially that you can identify your own
1:12.0	or series of situations where you just know there's going to be a fight of some sort.
1:18.4	So here's some tips that will help you.
1:20.8	So I hope you're going to enjoy this.
1:23.4	Okay, so first thing, approach the conflicts with curiosity.
1:28.6	Ask yourself what's behind the anger that is maybe in you, maybe in one other person,
1:35.5	maybe in a multiple of other people, maybe in everyone in a situation or maybe in one or
1:40.1	two, but whether it's in you, another person or everyone or two or three people out of
1:47.3	a group or something, because emotions are contagious and because emotions are coming
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