Podcast 468: How to recognize and deal with draining people

CLEANING UP YOUR MENTAL MESS with Dr. Caroline Leaf

Dr. Caroline Leaf

Health & Fitness, Mental Health

4.6 • 3.2K Ratings

🗓️ 27 March 2023

⏱️ 25 minutes

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SHOW DESCRIPTION: In today’s podcast I talk about dealing with draining people while protecting your mental health. Relationships are great and have many benefits, but they can also be challenging, especially when you have to deal with someone who is a drain on your mental energy and resources. Indeed, sometimes the most draining people can be family, friends, co-workers, and even children! It's okay to admit to yourself that you feel drained around someone. You don't have to add guilt to the mental and emotional strain you are already feeling, as this will only make you feel worse. But, once you recognize and honor your feelings, you also need to take steps to help manage the situation so that you can protect your mental health and relationships. We need to acknowledge how we feel to manage how we feel.

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EPISODE HIGHLIGHTS:

00:41 Why we need to acknowledge how we feel to manage how we feel

5:16 How to use mind management to deal with draining people

14:56, 20:13 Tips to deal with draining people while protecting your mental health

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0:00.0	Hi, I'm Dr. Caroline Leif and welcome to my podcast, Cleaning Up the Maintainment Mace.
0:09.9	Okay, sometimes we have to clean up the mental mace in ways that we maybe kind of can feel
0:14.2	a little bit guilty about and how to deal with draining people is the topic of today's
0:20.0	podcast.
0:21.0	And sometimes people do drain us and sometimes we can feel a little bit guilty about the
0:25.7	fact that they are draining us and maybe allow them to drain us even more.
0:29.5	So the important thing is there are people in your life that drain you.
0:37.2	You don't have to feel guilty.
0:39.1	The important thing is that you acknowledge how you feel in order to then manage how
0:43.3	you feel because the draining plus the guilt is going to make you feel even worse and eventually
0:49.8	you're going to say the wrong thing anyway because that creates chronic stress and you
0:53.6	and chronic stress.
0:55.0	Besides the fact that it damages your brain and body and makes you feel awful and all
0:58.8	of those things that you hear me talk about so much, it is really not going to help you
1:02.9	formulate the right response to that person or manage that situation and then all kinds
1:07.2	of things you've weighed and all that could lead to big arguments or things like that.
1:11.7	So number one is to recognise and acknowledge that there is a person or persons that are
1:17.9	draining you.
1:19.5	In acknowledging I understand that that could be someone in your family.
1:23.9	Someone in your family, it could be a close friend, it could be a colleague at work.
1:27.9	So it could be any number of situations where that's occurring and it may be not very easy
1:33.4	to kind of get away from it.
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