Podcast 454: What to do when boundaries collide in relationships
CLEANING UP YOUR MENTAL MESS with Dr. Caroline Leaf
Dr. Caroline Leaf
4.6 • 3.2K Ratings
🗓️ 6 February 2023
⏱️ 27 minutes
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SHOW DESCRIPTION: In this podcast I talk about what happens when boundaries collide in relationships, and how to navigate tense situations. This is part 1 of a 2 part series. Boundaries are a hot topic these days. Many people post about the importance of boundaries, how to set them and how to respect them, all of which are important. Boundaries help us build stronger relationships with the people in our life. They help us increase our respect for ourselves as we learn how to recognize our own limits and protect our mental health, while acknowledging that other people also have their limits. Once we start setting our own boundaries and respecting other people’s boundaries, we tend to see a huge improvement in our own mental health and in our relationships. The more we set our own boundaries, the more we learn to understand and respect the boundaries of the people in our lives.
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EPISODE HIGHLIGHTS:
0:45 How important boundaries are
1:10 What happens when boundaries collide
5:30 Why it is important to reflect on our boundaries & learn how to negotiate boundaries that collide with others
6:46 What happens in the brain & body when boundaries collide
11:54 How to use mind management to handle colliding boundaries
15:16, 20:58 Why self-reflection is so important when dealing with colliding boundaries
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Transcript
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| 0:00.0 | Hi, I'm Dr. Caroline Leif and welcome to my podcast, Cleaning Up, The Mental Mass. |
| 0:09.2 | Well, welcome today from Beautiful Miami. This is the beach behind me and I thought it would |
| 0:15.3 | help you feel happy as we discussed something that's really important and that is boundaries |
| 0:21.1 | that collide. There's so much discussion about boundaries and there's excellent books out there |
| 0:27.0 | and there's a general knowledge and awareness of the importance of a boundary and the realisation |
| 0:32.5 | that there's a pathway learning how to set a boundary and having specific these lots of great |
| 0:38.2 | books about specific boundaries for specific situations. So I think we all get that |
| 0:43.6 | having boundaries and creating them and respecting them is really important for mental health. |
| 0:48.8 | So I don't have to convince you about boundaries. I think pretty certain that you are |
| 0:57.2 | convinced about using boundaries and how important they are. The issue comes in however is and this |
| 1:03.9 | came from actually from one of our listeners, a question from a listener and it's something that I've |
| 1:09.2 | experienced and that's why I decided to do a podcast on it and when I chatted to my team, |
| 1:13.6 | they've also experienced this so although this is a great and important topic and this is to discuss |
| 1:19.3 | what happens when the boundaries that you need and the boundaries that someone else needs collide. |
| 1:25.8 | So how do we deal with colliding boundaries? So you're in a family situation and there's |
| 1:31.6 | boundaries needed and needs to be set because of whatever and you need your boundary and that person |
| 1:37.6 | needs their boundary and you both need them and they've valid and justified and excellent boundaries |
| 1:43.9 | but for some reason they collide. What do you do? Okay so over the next two podcasts, |
| 1:50.6 | but part one or part two, I'm going to be discussing four neuropsychals that you can do that will |
| 1:57.1 | help to manage colliding boundaries. In this podcast, part one, I'm just going to be talking very briefly |
| 2:03.8 | about the overview of what happens inside sort of the science of what happens inside the mind |
| 2:09.4 | brain body connection as you negotiate and solve colliding boundaries and if we don't solve them, |
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