Hi welcome to this week's edition of PHQ questions from the personality

hacker community my name is Joel Mark Witt and I'm Antonia Dodge and

Addison let's get right to our question today hello I have just finished a book called Emotional Intelligence by Daniel Gorman.

I have a question that involves the main premise of the book

that Emotional Intelligence is very important and worth developing and personality typology.

In the book, Goldman suggests that in order for one to be

emotionally intelligent, one has to be proficient in five areas, self-awareness, self-regulation, internal motivation, empathy, and

social skills.

I'm an I-N-T-P and generally my FE only comes out when I am out of control emotionally.

On a regular basis I don't think about it and when I try to understand my feelings or the feelings of others

I often either come up blank or with very crude estimates of how

people are feeling such as angry or embarrassed. I often have a very hard time

connecting to others emotionally, but I do want to develop some emotional intelligence,

as I can definitely see the benefit to doing this. Can you do a podcast on how different types

can develop emotional intelligence through their primary or

secondary cognitive functions as opposed to resorting to their underdeveloped

tertiary or inferior functions? Thanks Lillian.

Thanks Lillian for the question.

This can definitely be a challenge for thinker types, especially I-N-TPs I think struggle with

this emotional piece.

It feels, I think for a lot of ITPs when we come to the realm of emotions,

it can feel very much out of control. And you know, Tony uses this phrase a lot, there be

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