So one of the tensions in our marriage from day one and it's still there, you know what I'm going to say?

No.

Well, I mean we started a conversation yesterday about perfectionism and I was thinking

about how that plays out in our marriage I mean we talked a little bit yesterday

you mean because I'm just so laid back you're so laid back you just don't even care

about anything and like well let's just wing it again today. Welcome to Family Life Today where we want to help you pursue the relationships that matter most.

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That's been the tension is that I'm not that. You have high standards and you're driving really hard. I'm not

hard. I'm not saying that I don't, but I tend to have more of a,

let's just go over the flow and that was good enough

and let's move on, even the yard, you know, the yard looks great.

You know, if I snow blow the driveway in Michigan you want me to snow blow five more

neighbors before I come in it's like it's never good enough that's been

attention for sure it's been attention.

For sure it's been attention.

Part of its personality difference, background difference.

There are so many things that make us different and I think when we're dating we really enjoy those

differences and then we get married and it's attention in the marriage it's hard I

love that you were so laid back and then after we get married and especially after kids,

I'm like, come on man, what is the plan?

What are we doing?

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