Hello, welcome to the show. This is Emotional Badass, where Moxie meets Mindful. I'm your host,

Nikki Eisenhower, life coach and psychotherapist. And on today's episode, we're doing part two,

the sneaky bastard of perfectionism. All right, y'all, this is a part two. This is our bonus episode. We're giving you five episodes out here on this public feed. The sister episode to this one is available on our Patreon. Come finally sign on. Come see what we've got going on over there. so if you haven't listened to the last episode maybe

pause here and go listen to that one before you come back we are tackling some phrases that are

very common they get stuck and used inside of our own self-talk a lot as highly sensitive people

and i want to try to break down the nuance of these

phrases that on the surface sound pretty good. It's part of why you have taken to telling yourself

these things. They don't sound like a problem. But I'm going to show you where this sneaky

bastard of perfectionism does his dirty work on these

phrases, okay?

So we are starting with our fifth phrase.

It's, I'm working on myself.

Nothing wrong with that phrase, right?

How does that phrase feel in your mind, your body?

I'm working on myself.

I can almost feel y'all thinking, Nikki, I'm working on myself right now,

listening to your show. There can't possibly be anything wrong with me working on myself.

I'm with you. I heard it that way for a long time. There is a possible translation of what our

critical voice will do with this phrase. It will actually say, instead of I'm working on

myself. It actually says, because I know how broken I am, I'm a constant project that is never complete.

I will not let myself be in thriving mode until I achieve what I expect out of myself, which means I'm going to kick my own

peace can down the road, because I don't think I deserve it yet. I don't deserve peace till more is

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