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Parents: Keep Out!

Hidden Brain

Hidden Brain Media

Performing Arts, Social Sciences, Science, Arts

4.6 • 40.4K Ratings

🗓️ 24 November 2025

⏱️ 79 minutes

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Summary

If you’re a parent or a teacher, you’ve probably wondered how to balance play and safety for the kids in your care. You don’t want to put children in danger, but you also don’t want to rob them of the joy of exploration. This week, we revisit a favorite conversation with psychologist Peter Gray. We'll talk about why independent play is so important to a child's development, and answer listeners' questions about the role parents, schools, and neighborhoods can play in giving kids more autonomy.

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0:00.0

This is Hidden Brain. I'm Shankar Vedant.

0:03.0

A plane goes down somewhere in the Pacific.

0:06.0

The survivors, stranded on a deserted island, are a group of schoolboys.

0:11.0

At first, they celebrate their newfound escape from adult supervision playing on the beach.

0:17.0

Then they organize. They elect one of the boys, Ralph, as their chief.

0:22.6

Ralph and several others get a fire going.

0:25.6

But soon the boys begin resisting Ralph's efforts to lead them.

0:29.6

The boys assigned to watch over the fire get distracted, and the fire goes out.

0:35.6

They become paranoid and stoke each other's fears of a beast they're convinced

0:42.7

is stalking the island.

0:45.3

They split into warring factions and begin attacking one another.

0:50.1

Three of them die.

0:52.7

This is the story told in the 1954 novel, Lord of the Flies.

0:57.8

It was written by an English schoolteacher named William Golding,

1:01.0

and it reflected his harsh view of humans in general, and children in particular.

1:07.8

The novel ends when a British naval officer lands on the island and finds the children in a ragged, feral state.

1:16.6

The novel entered the cultural consciousness as a warning. Without rules, systems, and adult supervision, children left alone would descend into chaos.

1:30.2

As with many generalizations, there is some truth to this.

1:34.1

A multitude of studies suggest kids thrive when they have stability.

1:38.7

Chaotic and unpredictable environments can bring out the worst in us.

1:43.3

But today we explore whether many societies have taken William Golding's warning

1:47.3

too much to heart.

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