Parenting Without Making It About Me | After Hours With Amanda Ep. 20

After Hours With Amanda

Kids & Family, Parenting

5.0 • 697 Ratings

🗓️ 26 May 2021

⏱️ 45 minutes

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Summary

In this episode of After Hours With Amanda, I’m talking about parenting without ego and learning to see tiny humans as people before we see them as titles.

I share a school decision that taught me how easily parenting can become about my comfort, my identity, or my fear instead of what my child actually needs. From there, I get into mom guilt, therapy, authority, peer pressure, collaboration, safety, and why “parent,” “child,” or “teen” are not full identities.

This one is about taking the title off long enough to see the person standing in front of you.

00:00 Welcome Back To The Inconsistent Podcast

01:01 Shake The Ice Intro

01:36 Summer, School, And Short Shopping

03:10 Church Camp And Acting A Fool

04:12 Today’s Topic: Ego

04:41 My School Decision For London

06:52 When My Comfort Affected Her

07:58 Giving Her The Tools I Missed

09:02 Parenting, Trauma, And Ego

10:23 The Parent Child Power Dynamic

13:09 Thinking Through Paige’s School Needs

15:01 What Does My Tiny Person Need?

17:25 What Does Parent Even Mean?

18:33 The Webster Moment

20:03 TikTok Comments And Collaboration

21:27 Stop Defining Kids By Age

22:19 Parent, Friend, Or Guide?

23:13 Authority, Questions, And Problem Solving

24:08 Empathy Plus Boundaries

26:11 The Three-Nager Label

28:08 Therapy, EMDR, And Apologizing To Blake

29:55 Tiny People Need Advocates

31:12 Teens, College, And Feeling Seen

34:27 Peer Pressure And Self Trust

36:04 Recognize Her As A Person

38:22 Safety, Fear, And Explaining Why

41:09 First And Only Edition

42:07 Mom Guilt And Humanizing Yourself

43:21 A Title Is Not Definitive Of A Person

Transcript

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0:00.0	Welcome back to the most inconsistent podcast in the history of podcasts. But for real, y'all, like,
0:08.2	I feel we are on the level where you know me. Like, you know me. And if you know, you know,
0:13.8	my intent is every week. My heart is every week. My life just drops up in my lap and goes,
0:19.4	no, boo-boo, not this week. And if I was the planner
0:23.3	a header that I dream of being one day, I'd just be able to upload these episodes like,
0:28.1	no sweat, done. I recorded this. But I feel the need to share in the moment because if I record a
0:36.1	podcast and then something comes up that I feel really is relevant in that
0:39.9	moment, I need to be able to share it right away. And that's just my personality. And I have learned
0:45.3	to just not make excuses for that. But hold on. Someone said I should start the podcast episodes.
0:53.0	You know how I always talk about, okay, you know, I always talk about starting these episodes
0:56.7	with music.
0:57.5	Like, I'm going to have this cool intro and do this whole thing one day.
1:01.2	And someone was like, you know what you just need to do?
1:04.4	Shake some ice.
1:05.3	So we all know you're drinking Coke or iced coffee.
1:08.6	And if you couldn't tell from the rate at which I speak it, I've had both today.
1:14.5	But you know what? I have had a lovely intake of water that I'm sure my body's appreciative of.
1:19.7	But if you are new here, welcome to After Hours with Amanda, the podcast that's about parenting
1:26.3	and for parents, but literally
1:28.3	for any other human being who finds it helpful and not just about parenting, but since I am one,
1:32.8	we reference it. What is going on? We are so close to summer. Are you all out of school?
1:39.4	Are your children out of school? Where are we at with that? Huh? Okay, here's the thing.
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