Hey, y'all, welcome back to the Don't Momaloon podcast.

I'm your host, Heather McFadion, and this is the place where I get to walk alongside you

and connect you with people and resources so you know that you don't mom alone.

And in this episode number 565, I'm bringing back to the show, my friend

Vanitha Reisner. Parenting is a long game. Like, don't judge it by what's happening right now.

So just be faithful to God, listen to your kids, but you're not responsible for the outcome.

So don't hold on to that.

Like you have to make sure they're believers or you have to make sure they're anything.

Your kids are not products, they're people.

And so lean in, listen, ask God for wisdom and trust God with their lives.

Vanitha has come on the show before three years ago. Go check out that episode in the show

notes. She has an amazing story you're going to hear more of in this episode. She's written

so many great books,

including the scars that have shaped me, how God meets us in suffering, walking through fire,

a memoir of loss and redemption, and her newest book, This Was Never the Plan, Walking

With God Through the heartache of divorce. She is one who is familiar with suffering, whether it's infant loss, her physical body

challenges, the ending of her marriage. We are going to focus on that last one today because how do

you parent your kids through a story they didn't choose? How do you balance between sharing too much

or hiding your emotions? How do you

navigate co-parenting when there's different rules and values? And how do you make sure you don't

feel alone through the process? Recognizing also for your kids, you don't have to have all the

answers. Sometimes I don't know is enough.

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