Parent Empathy and Bad Therapists
Psychology In Seattle Podcast
Kirk Honda
4.5 • 1.3K Ratings
🗓️ 20 September 2023
⏱️ 82 minutes
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00:00 BPD patient & dread
15:22 Children of neglect & having children
25:37 OPP
27:18 Complimentary therapist & client attraction
1:01:38 Phone calls during session
1:11:40 Guilt after terminating with a therapist
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September 20, 2023
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| 0:00.0 | Okay, Bob. Well, it's been a long time since you've been on the podcast a long time. Yeah, and let's get |
| 0:06.4 | into it. What do you say? Yep. Glad you're better. Thanks. So this email is from anonymous |
| 0:12.8 | upper tier patron. She says, dear Kirk and Bob, I'm a mental health technician at this inpatient |
| 0:20.6 | mental health rehabilitation center. And I'm struggling with this patient with borderline |
| 0:25.6 | personality disorder. She complains, she snaps and goes off at me sometimes. She goes off at staff |
| 0:33.8 | and at other patients over the smallest stuff that annoys her or when things don't go her way. |
| 0:40.1 | Every time I have to work in the same unit or interact with her, I get this feeling of dread |
| 0:46.5 | and I have to brace myself. Even though I understand why people with borderline personality |
| 0:51.2 | disorder are the way that they are, thanks to you, Dr. Kirk. It still doesn't shake the feeling |
| 0:58.4 | of dread away. Any advice on this, Bob? Yeah, it happens to me too when I have people that are |
| 1:05.4 | really angry and irritable. I get dread to see them. And what I found is to do my very, very best |
| 1:16.4 | to join them. To just join them. Like, if the person is upset about the food, join them. |
| 1:22.8 | Yeah. Food here is not so great sometimes. Absolutely. Even though their snapping and |
| 1:29.8 | hostile is unfair, you know, you're not just agreeing or being with someone who is being |
| 1:37.9 | reasonable or maybe a little miffed or something. Yeah. They might literally be yelling at you |
| 1:44.6 | because the food isn't good there or something. And you don't feel even necessarily safe. |
| 1:50.8 | Yeah. But if you're going to, well, why do you do that with those folks? |
| 1:56.2 | Because they're in pain and because by joining, I have noticed that sometimes when I'm successful |
| 2:02.7 | with that, it shifts the balance of the thing. It shifts the attitude of the other to |
| 2:08.7 | more cooperative, more, you know, yeah. I mean, at the very least, what it does is it erases the |
| 2:17.5 | dynamic that you're in opposition. Yeah. Even if they continue to get hostile. Yeah. It's like, |
| 2:26.3 | well, I judoed it and it's on the record that I'm not opposed. Right. I'm not the enemy. |
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