Pain Shopping: Why You Can't Stop Checking the Narcissist’s Social Media
The Mental Healness Podcast
Lee Hammock
4.9 • 1.2K Ratings
🗓️ 2 February 2026
⏱️ 15 minutes
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Summary
Are you "Pain Shopping"? In this episode, self-aware narcissist Lee Hammock breaks down the compulsive urge to check an ex's social media. Learn why your brain is addicted to the "Digital Self-Harm" of seeing their fake new life and how narcissists weaponize their profiles to keep you stuck in the trauma bond. It’s time to close the "Pain Store" and start your real recovery.
Key Topics: > * The Dopamine Trap of "The Scroll"
Why the Narcissist's "New Life" is a Billboard, Not a Reality
How to Break the Compulsion to Check Their Page
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| 0:59.7 | So you told yourself you were done. |
| 1:03.4 | You promised your family and friends that you were not going to reach out to them again. |
| 1:07.8 | Like you promised them. |
| 1:09.0 | You said that you told them the words. But guess what? Here you are, |
| 1:13.6 | 2.30 in the morning looking at their social media from a burner account, peeking at their Instagram from a |
| 1:19.2 | burner account. You're not healing. You're pain shopping. And as a diagnosed narcissist, I'm going to |
| 1:26.6 | give you the straight truth right here, y'all. One of the most dangerous things that you can do as a diagnosed narcissist, I'm going to give you the straight truth right here, y'all. |
| 1:28.4 | One of the most dangerous things that you can do as a survivor or a thriver that's trying to |
| 1:32.5 | heal for a narcissist. |
| 1:33.4 | One of the worst things you can do in the healing process is to keep looking at their social |
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