Hi, it's Glenin. Welcome back to We Can Do Hard Things. So the episode we're launching

today, we almost didn't air at all. We've recorded this conversation on a day when

my sister was feeling really overwhelmed and kind of angry. She was feeling the entire

weight of the world and our business and the complicated future of her two neurodiverse

kids on her shoulders and her angry overwhelm was causing a deep rift between her and her

partner John. She felt resentment for him because while she knows he's a deeply good man

who loves her and their babies. She also knows he doesn't carry the same emotional load

that she does. That because she's a woman, she is expected to do endless hours of invisible

work that he isn't expected to do. And that because her partner John doesn't carry

the constant caretaker ticker that runs through her mind all day and night about what

everyone in her life needs now and tomorrow and a decade from now. He has more free time

and energy in space in his day and in his mind. Which means he has more free time and

energy in space in his life. And in the end, that discrepancy means he has a fuller life

more time to be human. And that pisses her off. After we recorded this conversation,

we thought, well, that was a good sister conversation, but we won't make a public because

this is personal. This is a unique situation. People might not understand. But then a couple

weeks ago, we aired the fun episode in it. We talked about how so many women don't know

how to play. How to have fun. That often we forget how to play as young girls because

fun requires being unself-conscious and little girls are trained to care more about how

we appear and how we feel. And as we get older, we are further trained to care for others

needs instead of our own. We forget how to play when we learn how to constantly please

and serve. We don't get to play because we have too much damn work to do. And so we

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