Hey everyone. Welcome back to Grown Kid. I'm Gail. And I'm Kayla. And as you all know, if you go on GrownCit.com, the first thing you will see is a section called overshare with a text box and a

button that says submit anonymously. And this is what we use to get all of your submissions

into the system so we can go through everything, all your little confessions, secrets and

worries, and try to offer a little

piece of advice. And so today we're doing exactly that. We're reading some of your over shares

that you've sent over these last couple months. It's been a little bit. It's been a while. I don't

remember the last time we did. I know. And there's some juicy stuff. Some of you wrote

paragraphs that you could tell you needed somewhere. And I'm glad we can be chat GKT for you.

First of mission. Okay. This is from a male, 24. I've been dating this girl for a while, but I feel like she holds me back. We have similar interests, but as time has gone on, her habits have been wearing me out. And honestly, I don't see eye-to-eye with her sometimes. I've missed certain opportunities just to stick with her, and at times I feel like I'm trapped. I love her, but at times I feel like I would be liberated if I was alone. I'm stuck in this limbo phase where I'm just lost. With the job market being so bad, I have no extra money for dates or going out, so anytime I get paid, the same person telling me to save is the same person draining my wallet.

I'm an ambitious person and I'm coming to the point where I want to do me for a while just to flourish and stack up my money.

I don't know how to say that to her.

I feel like I'm just stressed financially.

But I also feel like my feelings are shifting a lot.

Well, goddamn. You know, the best piece of advice is always never lose an opportunity for a relationship. Never is a strong word. Wait, what do you mean by this? Like, you know, when people are like, oh, I didn't go to this college because my girlfriend didn't want me to go? I didn't move to this city because my girlfriend isn't in that city. I just don't really believe in that. I'm like either wait it out and like you guys

can survive until the point where you're together again or it's just not the right fit. And it's like

relationships are temporary. Maybe this is the point where you need to diverge into your own path. And if it

brings you comfort, maybe it's just a temporary break. You know, sometimes you hear those stories of, yeah, like, I love my girlfriend, but we had different goals in life until we broke up because it was what was best for one another to enable each of us to flourish. But then years later, we came back, we fell in love and now we're married. Yeah. When you're in a relationship and you're having thoughts about breaking up, it's so much easier to like make it a lot bigger than what it actually is when you haven't told the other person. So you're just like always ruminating over that thought in your head. And I have found having been in, that like, when you just tell the person,

like, what you're actually thinking, it's like, oh, wait, maybe I don't even want to break up with you. Maybe I was just, like, blowing this out of proportion in my head because, again, I'm worried about, like, financial worries or about what I want to do in my life. And so sometimes it's not even about your partner. It's about you being in your own head and like your own

struggles and it's just like projecting that onto them. So who knows? I would say tell your partner

first and see how they respond. See if you know they can add any valuable advice or have some

tangible change. If not, then I think you know what to do. Yeah, dog. I mean, you got to

stack your money too. Like, here's the thing about relationships is people can say that you don't

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