are you niche, weird, or performative?

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Grownkid & Joy Coalition

Mental Health, Health & Fitness, Society & Culture

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🗓️ 5 December 2025

⏱️ 30 minutes

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Summary

in this episode, we break down the line between niche, weird, and performative - how wanting to be different can make you just like everyone else, what these identities actually look like in real life, and where we find ourselves on that spectrum. we also ask: what happens when the behaviors people call "performative" are things you genuinely enjoy, with or without an audience? ultimately, who decides what's authentic? other people, or you? follow us: @grownk1d @gaelaitor @_kaylasuarez join our social club: https://form.typeform.com/to/eBSho4lE overshare with us: grownkid.com About our Partners: GrownKid is made in partnership with Joy Coalition where purpose driven content meets powerful storytelling. From 13 Reasons Why to Unprisoned, Joy Coalition projects are made to bridge generations and drive groundbreaking conversations. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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0:00.0	Hey everyone, welcome back to Grown Kid. I'm Gail. And I'm Kayla. Today we're asking ourselves,
0:17.2	are you niche or are you just weird as fuck? Or performative.
0:21.7	Or performative.
0:22.6	That's a very big part in this equation.
0:24.8	Do you think you're performative personally?
0:26.8	Well, what do you classify as being performative?
0:29.7	How I view being performative is like you're putting on a persona that's not entirely
0:34.1	yours, but you're doing it because you think that's what other people like to see. Right. Is that it? Like, essentially? Yeah. And it's just like a mean now, right? It's like you just lean into what's popular. It's like, yeah. You're just, you chase whatever trend it is, even if it means adopting the perception or the aesthetics of a lifestyle that isn't yours.
0:54.6	Yeah.
0:55.9	I don't think so.
0:57.3	You don't think you are a performer?
0:57.8	I don't. Performer.
0:59.0	A portfolio.
1:02.1	No, I don't think so.
1:04.0	I don't know if I have any habits that I do because I feel like other people would like that
1:09.9	or find me more likable or more cool.
1:12.6	Do you think I have performative trees?
1:14.2	Yeah, very.
1:15.2	Tell me.
1:15.8	Very.
1:16.5	Actually.
1:16.8	She was very performative.
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