Hi my name is Lewis Howes and welcome to the Daily Motivation Show.

I've seen many, many women protect their children from the father. They don't trust him.

And so every time he interacts with the child,

they'll do something disapproving.

A look, they'll put him down.

Now, it's not like men don't do that to their wives.

There's all sorts of tricks that men have for their wives.

But if you don't trust men, you won't let them have a hand in the discipline of the children.

You know, when you think of discipline, you think of punishment threat and dad saying no that isn't discipline discipline is if you discipline someone property they become disciplined that means they're competent they can control themselves so I'll give you an example what my son is quite a

disagreeable person by nature he's very masculine he's very high in emotional

stability so he doesn't have much negative emotion.

And he's very and he's relatively low in agreeableness and that's that's typical masculine pattern that the two big personality differences between men and women are agreeableness, women are higher, and neuroticism, tendency to feel

negative emotion, women are higher.

So what that meant was that when he was a kid, he was a stubborn little pup.

It was hard to get him to do what he didn't want to do. And you know that's the mark of a character that is hard to stop. So there's real advantages to it, but kids who are disagreeable are a handful because they think I'm not doing that and you can't make me.

The rule for him was he'd push the limits in a variety of ways and he's really good at that and

he's quite persistent at it and I'd talk to my wife and say

look Julian's getting a little too pushy here we have to crack down on him and stop

them and this is what I see and she'd say this is what I see and we'd think well this is what we're going for a week he isn't going to get away with anything like the line man it's like kid he'd be three or three and a half at this time sit on the steps

Sit on the steps and if he wouldn't because he was stubborn. Well, I'd bring him over and put him on the steps like it was your good if I say you're going to sit on

the steps you are absolutely going to sit on the steps it was so interesting to watch

him because he'd be angry you know because he got interfered with He didn't get to do what he wanted to do.

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