Coming to you from the Center for Social Confidence in Portland, Oregon.

Welcome to Shrink for the Shy Guy, helping men everywhere go from social anxiety to social domination.

With your host, Dr. Aziz.

Hey, welcome to this episode of Shrink for the Shy Guy.

I'm excited about this episode because this is the first time that we, that's right, you and I are going to take a deeper look at you and your relationships.

Your intimate relationships, your relationships with the fairer sex.

That's right, you and women. And that's a big area when it comes to shyness and social anxiety.

That's one of the major things that trips guys up. And that's one of the major areas that is a source of pain. And even people who've progressed beyond basic social skills and social

confidence, you might feel like you have a general sense that you can talk to people, that you can

feel comfortable in yourself, that maybe you have gotten past the fear that everyone's going to

reject you, and you have some belief that people could like you and that you have had positive

experiences with friendships and maybe even with women. But when it comes to feeling attractive,

to getting the responses that you want, to feeling like you are desired and pursued and that

women want to date you, that can be an area that is very difficult to feel

a sense of mastery or even competence in. And the result is a continual drain on our self-esteem,

a sense of, uh, I'm not quite good enough, I should be better. If only I had more of this,

or I was able to

attract different women or hotter women or more women, then I would be worthwhile. Or maybe it's

focused on one particular woman. Like if I could get her attention and she could find me

attractive and want to date me, then I would feel worthwhile. And there's a lot of stuff embedded in this,

and this is the first episode we're turning towards it,

but this is by all and not any means the last time we're going to look at it.

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