Hey, this is Durey and welcome to Bonsi of the People.

On this episode, we have Dr. Brandon Terry to help us think about Dr. King and his work.

We're in a similar situation right now where we've got a bunch of Byzantine ways that

the GOP is trying to ensure what amounts to minority rule.

They're not a majority.

They probably never will be again.

So they've got all of these different technologies to suppress the vote.

And the news is always, before we jump in though, I'll share something that I've been

thinking about recently had an in-person conversation with Dr. Brunei Brown, who's most known for

her work on Shaman Gill.

And it made me think of one of her quotes that has always resonated with me about perfectionism.

Now, the preface to this is that she talks about Gill as the idea that I'm a person who's

done bad things or things I'm not proud of.

Shaman is the idea that I'm a bad person.

She says, whoever perfectionism is driving, Shaman is riding shotgun.

Perfectionism is not about healthy striving.

It's not about trying to set goals and being the best we can be.

It's basically a cognitive behavioral process that says if I look perfect, work perfect,

and do everything perfectly, I can avoid shame, ridicule, and criticism.

It's a defensive mechanism.

And you know, I stumbled back across that the other day and it made me think about all

the ways perfectionism is actually showing up in my life where I'm not doing what I know

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