outlasting the drought: being single in your 30s

hot pursuit by AsianBossGirl

Emily, Madelyn, Jen

Relationships, Society & Culture, Personal Journals

4.7 • 1.6K Ratings

🗓️ 10 March 2026

⏱️ 51 minutes

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Summary

is being single in your 30s a crisis, or is it secretly one of the most freeing seasons of adulthood? in this episode, the hot pursuit girls share the highs and lows of single life—from family pressure and societal timelines to the unexpected freedom that comes with doing life on your own terms. they talk about finding contentment along the way and how deep friendship can sometimes be the real and entirely unexpected love stories of your 30s. 0:00 what is a thornback?! 4:14 so done with hearing “you’re such a great catch” 8:58 ok so am i the problem? 14:41 why being single ain’t so bad 20:38 when did you feel more content being single? 31:50 valuable guidance we’ve heard from non-single people 35:57 single life in your 30s can be soo fun 42:30 do you still feel pressured to get married? CONNECT WITH US Connect with us @thehotpursuitpod on Instagram/TikTok/Youtube. Email us at ⁠hello@thehotpursuitpod.com⁠. Learn more at ⁠thehotpursuitpod.com⁠. THE HOT PURSUIT PODCAST: Hosted and written by: Jennifer Han, Emily Lin, and Madelyn Ong Produced by: Hot Pursuit Media and AsianBossGirl Edited by: Josh Jang Theme song composed by: Shawn Halim Art by: Kelsey Cordutsky Motion Graphics by: Matt Ebling Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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0:00.0	If I wanted all of my kids by 30, I should have started like five years ago.
0:03.9	Thoughty Thorntmac.
0:04.8	Am I doing something wrong?
0:06.7	No.
0:07.5	I'm still as single as I was when I was 13.
0:10.6	It is not actually peace because it is delusion.
0:25.8	Hello and welcome to Hot Pursuit, a podcast about creating conversations where nothing is off limits.
0:28.3	This podcast is produced by Asian Boss Carl.
0:30.0	What is a Thornback?
0:41.4	A Thornback is an unmarried woman who is supposedly, I think, no skills and very ugly and has not had a man to come save her from her predicament. What predicament are you in? And it's, you have to be over 25. Over 25? Oh,
0:47.5	don't talk to her. She's a thorn back. I'm like, 25 is when you expire. Are you kidding me?
0:53.6	When I saw a box of my grandparents' documents, and one of the documents for my grandma,
0:59.6	she was 29 at the time when she came to America, I think, and it labeled her spinster.
1:03.8	It literally said spinster.
1:05.5	Yeah.
1:06.0	It was crazy.
1:08.5	So we're like beyond expired.
1:10.7	We're beyond spinsters, yeah.
1:12.3	Today we're talking about outlasting the drought because we are all in our 30s and...
1:17.3	Surprise.
1:18.3	And single.
1:19.3	Surprise.
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