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Others Opinions Don't Own Your Identity | After Hours With Amanda Ep. 9

After Hours With Amanda

After Hours With Amanda

Kids & Family, Parenting

5.0697 Ratings

🗓️ 26 November 2020

⏱️ 40 minutes

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Summary

In this episode of After Hours With Amanda, I’m talking about other people’s opinions, identity, worry, and the way we can spend so much energy imagining what people think about us.


From lunchroom anxiety to college campus fear, mom group insecurity, social media comments, laundry piles named Eduardo and Celine, and finally buying the Doc Martens, this one is about learning to stop handing your identity over to people who do not get to own it.


Not a rulebook. Just a long voicemail between friends about resting, reflecting, responding, and remembering that worry is a bully that does not pay you back.



00:00 Laundry, Crinkles, and Closet Joy

03:10 Going Deep in the DMs

04:17 Other People’s Opinions

05:31 Lunchroom Anxiety

06:37 College Campus Fear

08:47 Mom Group Insecurity

10:05 Be the Invitation

11:05 What Opinions Really Are

12:21 Social Media Comments and Identity

13:25 Your Identity Belongs to You

16:15 The Laundry Pile Analogy

18:25 Worry Is a Bully

20:41 Stop Searching for Identity in People

22:21 Work on Your Opinion of Yourself

24:12 Kids, Disagreement, and Difference

26:29 Take Back the Power

32:07 Rest, Reflect, Then Respond

35:29 Wise Words Versus Cheap Opinions

37:03 Buy the Doc Martens



Transcript

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0:00.0

Hey, welcome back to another episode.

0:05.0

I don't know if we're gonna sing, but I was really excited.

0:07.0

Y'all, I'm telling you, there is some joy in this.

0:10.0

I wanna call it a laundry room because there's so much laundry,

0:12.0

but honestly, my closet.

0:14.0

So I just wanna tell you, I'm sitting next to a giant pilot.

0:19.0

Why am I singing? You guys, this has to end. I am not on an

0:22.6

episode of glee. Okay, but I'm in my closet with laundry once again. My friend, Eduardo, has been

0:31.5

come back. His cousin, Celine, joins us. If you're new around here, that is the two names we've

0:37.2

given my laundry pile. Originally, it was just Eduardo. And then're new around here, that is the two names we've given my laundry pile.

0:38.7

Originally, it was just Eduardo. And then one day someone said, did his cousin move in? And I said,

0:43.2

who knew Celine? She's a sneaky sneakers. So I'm sitting next that pile of laundry. But the most

0:51.0

exciting thing currently in my closet, besides my peach black ice tea from Starbucks,

0:55.5

is this delicious treat I found at Trader Joe's this week. Let me tell you, it's my childhood

1:00.8

encapsulated. Here we go, y'all. Just prepare yourself. It's called an almond crinkle.

1:06.5

All right. It is a little Dutch delight. So my mom was during the holiday seasons. She loved crinkles.

1:14.4

Like the woman was a queen when it came to any type of bakery treat. But these things were a

1:22.8

delicacy. You usually have to go to a specialty bakery. But my heiney was in Trader Joe's this weekend hold on

1:29.3

let's just take a bite together oh my god oh I got it on the floor oh this is why I can't have nice things

1:36.5

um I'm in Trader Joe's I'm shopping with the girls and literally I look and I see and I'm like

1:44.0

no it is not is it oh my gosh and a crinkle

1:47.3

basically looks like a giant like a giant Danish honestly if you take a basketball and

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